im 20 and my night mares have started again

The mind can play havoc in times of loss and it often comes out when your asleep and at your most relaxed point. It can last for a long time as you know.

Its no good to keep these things to yourself though and you will often find that once things are shared with maybe some proffesional bodies like counselling, they tend to fade. Not that you ever will "forget" what has happened, but more that you "learn to live" with such things. 

Dont be afraid of your dreams, try and go with them. Things are not the same as in your waking life.

Heres my tale that might make you see what i mean:

For years i used to have this nightmare. I could be anywhere when all of a sudden everywhere started to flood. I used to run, jump and climb to run from this water that was surrounding me. It seemed like i was running for ages, waking up sweating in a panic. I used to jump and wake up when the water reached my mouth, shaking and distrought.

I spoke with the doctors who referred me to councelling, and they told me the exact thing im telling you, to go with it....eekkk?

Anyway, the dreams went on, but i kept running and trying to escape the water. Then one night, in my dream i remembered what i had been told. So instead of running, i turned round..faced the water which was coming at me fast, and ran like mad, right into the water.

(This is the best bit)

I kind of ran and jumped into it, went under and back up to the top. Then it was all silent, when i looked around,i was at some sunny beach with some palm trees, all still water queit and peaceful. I could of bathed in them blue waters all day!

Theres always hope Lauren and i know your get through it, no matter how hard it seems now. See a counceller, get things out ..and remember you can always talk on here to share.

Keep us updated on how your doing : )

Nightmares   wake and see spiders walking over the ceiling. I am so scared of them jump out of bed. As the  light starts to shine I see pictures on the curtains some seem friendly others dont.

Two mornings running I was on a coach trip we went round the ( same )  tight bend the coach went over the edge. Never told any of my friends. What do you think ??

I agree with what bubblesleep said, face your fears. There isn't any other way to do it but by having the courage to be brave and confront your nightmares. You see my father died when I was just 4 years old, he always appeared on my dreams and I would wake up at the middle of the night sweating profusely and screaming. Co'z I was always afraid of ghosts and dead people and it's terrifying to see them in my dreams. It got worsen when I was in college that I would prefer to sleep during the day, but the nightmares are always there it didn't go away. After a while I got tired of not having to have control of what I think and what I feel. So I put a stopped to it by facing those people in my dreams. I told them that they are already dead and I don't want them bothering me again. It's been 5 years now and I haven't encounter a ghost in my dream again. It also helps to get rid of your anxious thoughts because they are the main reason why you are having these nightmares in the first place. Tell people about it and seek advice from your friends, family and professionally. Good luck, I hope you get over it soon.