im failing school and feel sucidal

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14, Male

I'm 14 turning 15 in a few days. I was alright at school in primary school but know in high school YR9 feeling depressed and often suicidal. My grades have been bad recently and are getting worse. I'm getting told by teachers I need to try but I just feel so depressed i want to end it.

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  • Posted

    Hi, 

    We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.

    If you are having these suicidal thoughts then we strongly recommend you speak to someone who may be able to help. The Samaritans offer a safe space where you can talk openly about what you are going through. They can help you explore your options, understand your problems better, or just be there to listen.

    Their contact details are on our patient information leaflet here: https://patient.info/health/dealing-with-suicidal-thoughts, which also offers lots of other advice on how you can access the help you may need.

    If you are having such thoughts then please do reach out to the team at the Samaritans (or the other people detailed in our leaflet) who will understand what you're going through and will be able to help.

    Kindest regards

    Patient

  • Posted

    Hi, your not a waste of space as your userid suggests you are a young person struggling with depression and your feelings. Have you got a school councillor or pastor you can talk to about this, as you need to speak to someone, you've not mentioned if your parents know and support you?

    Your grades are bound to suffer due to illness and your teachers may be a bit more sympathetic if they were aware of what you are going through. 

    Finally you could do with seeing your doctor if you've not already been as they will be able to treat your illness and especially if you're feeling suicidal at times. You perhaps need yo take some time out from school maybe if that's at all possible, grades can and will improve as you start to feel better.

    Let me and us know how you get on as plenty support here for you.

    Take care young man we are here for you.

    zNeil 

  • Posted

    Please talk to someone. Even if you just talk/vent on here, if you don't feel comfortable talking to a professional/teacher etc at the moment. I also suffer from depression, but sharing experiences here has made me feel so much better, such relief in just a few days. Your not alone with your thoughts. Is there anything particular that causes your low mood? That worries you? Here if you wish to chat further x

  • Posted

    Hello, I will not use any part of your name above, because you are very wrong

    Generally speaking you are supposed sixteen before contributing to this site.

    Please talk to your Parents and they can arrange an appointment with your Family Doctor who can help you.

    When I was at school in my teens I was always frightened to ask questions of the teachers and would sit at my desk worrying that I did not understand the lesson. Try not to worry, ask if you can talk to them in private and explain your worries after class. If you have questions or do not understand a point, put your hand up and ask the teacher to explain, they will be more than happy to explain, and believe me when I say there will be many more of your class mates who are having the same problem and they most probably be frightened to ask.

    Remember you are there to learn and your teachers job is to help their class.

    BOB

  • Posted

    The name you call yourself is awful,  you need to speak to someone forget your school grades not surprisingly they're low,  your sad but you need to know why.  Talk and talk and talk! Good luck,  I feel for you. 

  • Posted

    Right young man, you might be reading this in the middle of the night, but whatever time it is, go and tell your parents (or whoever you live with) right now about your suicidal thoughts. Now. Don't wait till a more 'convenient' time. There isn't one. Don't worry about them, or about upsetting them, and don't be embarrassed. TELL THEM. DO IT RIGHT NOW. It really is that important, ok!?

    I'm telling you to do that as a mum who has a 17 year old daughter who has had suicidal thoughts since she was about 13 /14 years old. She didn't want to tell me what was going on in her head because she didn't want to upset me or add to my troubles. Well I can tell you, as her parent, I would have been far more upset (devastated) if she had taken her own life. A parent's wants/needs to know if their child is suffering so they can help. 

    If for whatever reason this is not possible for you due to your personal circumstances then please speak to your guidance teacher at school. My daughter didn't want her school to know about her problems but it was a relief when they finally got involved, and they have been a tremendous support to her. She has struggled, and even just last year she felt like dropping out. I couldn't have imagined she would be where she is now, enjoying her final year and with a clear plan for University and the future.

    That can happen for you too, but you have to make that first move and tell an adult. Don't keep silent. Don't. It will be ok, you will get your life back together, but you can't do it by hiding. 

    Tell them now.

    Mari xxx

     

  • Posted

    All I can say is please reach out to somebody, because there is always someone that will listen. Think of your own family how they would feel it will definitely ripp them apart because my son did exactly that and believe me it affected literally hundreds of people. Please reach out don't be scared you have your whole 

    ice ahead of you. Get your parents to take you to see your GPs they are not scare you people they understand a lot. Even talk to senco at school.

  • Posted

    I can clearly understand your situation and what you might be going through. I think that there is something there in your unconscious which is making you feel like that. Try to find it. It can be anything, any mishap in your life or any relationship issue. Find it out and try to overcome that problem rather than putting it under the carpet. If this is not the case don't worry. It happens that you feel sadness even though there is no clear -cut reason. What you can at least do is give up your negative thoughts and be optimistic about life in general. Believe in yourself and you will be okay. Hope this helps. I had recently consulted eWellness Expert. They have psychologists with wide experience in their field who can help you.

  • Posted

    Dont give up.

    This is just a brief time in your life, and its going to pass.

    Find anyone who will listen to you.

    You have YOUR WHOLE LIFE to live..this will go away.

    Talk to someone. Forget about your grades, this is your LIFE. Everything else is secondary.

    Grades etc will be fine later.

    Sending out love

    XXXXX

  • Posted

    You need to tell someone how you feel it may feel like school and grades is the biggest thing right now but you are much more than that. School is such a stressful time. You are not a waste of space I feel like that sometimes too but its that voice we have to ignore because its wrong. Tell someone it will help x
  • Posted

    Hi! I'm also a teen. in fact I'm 15 and sometimes I feel a little upset over things but focus on other things in life and try to find purpose. keep yourself busy so you don't have time to be upset or to have negative thoughts

  • Posted

    Hey bud,

    I made an account just to reply to this.

    I am failing 5 classes right now. I dont know how to dig my way out.

    I have depression and anxiety, and was coping well for a fair bit of time.

    I was in a hospital for an attempt and after, i was doing well(1 year ago).

    My grades were straight As, i know im not dumb. But im scared to go to school, to let people down.

    The work is often too easy, im stuck in a rut.

    I just want you to know your not alone.

    Im trying to get back to where i was, or at the least passing for this semester.

    I have goals in life that i want to pursue and often feel i never will.

    I hope youre doing okay.

    -Mocha

  • Edited

    hi, no not waste of anything! what has happened you poor chap? does anyone in your family know what has happened have you told them? don't suffer in silence! please tell someone, write it down for your mum and dad, tell them how you feel. you need support not ridicule. bless you, everyone is different, it's been a tough year, schools have been shut and you're expected to go back and just carry on like nothing has happened. reach out - you can not carry on without support.

  • Posted

    You are not a waste of space. Even if you were, you can change everything. I have learnt that at school its not how you start that matters, but year 11 that matters most. I did well upto year 9, but ultimately failed all my GCSES after doing very bad and having poor attendance in year 11. So there is still time for you.

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