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sarah44727
sarah44727

Im 32 i have 4 kids age 14 12 6 and 2 i found a small lump in my armpit next to my breast in august docs said give it 4 to 6 weeks to go i give it 9 it didnt go it has grown much i was referred for a ultra sound with radiology but they canceled it and said to send me to breast clinic for breast cancer rule out im now waiting for a an appointment upnuntill now ive had no paid but past few days ive had a burn sensation and aching in that area the lump its self doesnt hurt to touch. I dont feel i can tell any one i dont want no one to know im so dcared ive tried so hard not to think about it but cant help it and now with the pain its gard to ignore. Im doing my own head in 😟

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  • PGtips11
    PGtips11 sarah44727

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    Hello Sarah

    I know what you're going through. It's the not knowing and the waiting and the worry that is getting to you? Are you in the UK? If you are, once you get into the system the breast services are very good. you will get a dedicated nurse and phone service. I expect the next step will be a mammogram. Then it's normally 2weeks to get results. So it's waiting and worrying. More than likely it will turn out to be nothing. I know you don't want to tell anyone but be kind to yourself and reach out to a friend or family member that you trust and share your fears. It's no time to try to be strong and suffer alone.

    • sarah44727
      sarah44727 PGtips11

      Posted

      Hi yes im in the uk i just feel like id be worrying others when they may be no need to worry to be honest i feel like id be burdening them only got a few im close to but feel like a little weight lifted just writing on here and thank u for your reply xx
  • lynda20916
    lynda20916 sarah44727

    Posted

    Sarah,

    I'm so sorry you're going through this! Please try to be gentle with yourself as much as you can be; and if you have someone close to you that you can confide in that can provide you with comfort, please know that you need to share this!  No one can be strong without help!

    Please let me know how you do.  Am praying for you!

    • sarah44727
      sarah44727 lynda20916

      Posted

      Thank you, i just wish the letter would hurry up and arrive so i can make an appointment im so worrid of been messed about again as i said i was referred for a ultra sound but radiology cancelled but when they cancelled it they didnt follow protocol and inform my doctors to refer me to breast clinic they just put it in the note but didnt follow it  though so my doctors have made a complain about it but that was 3 weeks of waiting for nothing now back to waiting. Ive googled everything possible, im more scared for my kids i cant leave them yet there to young thats all that keeps me going im trying to be very mentaly strong just in case they say its cancer as i will fight with everything i have but im also trying to keep in mind it mostly likly is something less sinister, i think its because doctors have actually said she needs breast clinic for breast cancer rule out it shocked me abit.

      hope you are well.

    • lynda20916
      lynda20916 sarah44727

      Posted

      Hi Sarah,

      It's good to hear back from you! I understand that you're doing all you can do to stay strong now!

      I'll keep praying for you.  Please let me know what happens! xx 

  • Razouski
    Razouski sarah44727

    Posted

    I can understand how your feeling. The not knowing and waiiting around is horrible, and your mind seems to dream up the worst possible scenarios. As others in here have said, it is really improtant to share this with someone, even just one close and trusted friend or family member. 

    And I can understand you worrying about your family, and feeling "not ready to leave them yet". I felt so scared when I got a diagnosis of breast cancer on New Year's Eve and felt very very mortal. However try to remember, even if it is breast cancer, that the majority of women survive breast cancer nowadays and the treatment is swift once you get in the system. Someone else has said about being given a dedicated nurse and telephone contact if you get in the system. They are fab. However, while you're awaiting your appointment you can always phone the Macmillan helpline as often as you want for someone to talk to. Their is 0808 808 00 00. If you live near a Maggies Centre you can always drop in there and talk to someone - they are also fantastic, but there aren't that many of them around.

    I hope your appointment comes through soon, and wish that all turns out to be quite straightforward. (My mum had a lump in her armpit next to her breast, which was biopsied and was nothing sinister at all, so it may be that it's just a small cyst or fatty lump.)

    Try to be kind to yourself and find someone to talk to...

    <3

    • sarah44727
      sarah44727 Razouski

      Posted

      Hi i rang the breast clinic up myself friday as i have felt another lump on the edge of my breast it is only small and probably me feeling to hard i dont know but it freaked me out luckily my partner was there and i told him and he calmed me down as i had a panic attacked which ive never had before but any way my appointment is on thurs morning, im scared but a bit calmer and trying to keep my mind forcused, im praying its a cyst or something. talking on here has really helped and i thank you all for your kind words and its nice to talk to some one that understands
  • Shakey1204
    Shakey1204 sarah44727

    Posted

    Hi Sarah,

    It is all very overwhelming and frightening when it seems time is moving at a snails pace with getting appointments and most importantly, results!  It's so good that you've told your partner as having someone to lean on is really important.

    Try to think positively, I know only too well how difficult it is right now but it does help.  Razouski is right, it could well turn out to be a simple cyst.  I got cysts constantly when I was younger (42 now), I had 22 in my left breast alone and numerous in the right plus underarm in one MRI scan.  Docs were surprised to say the least!

    Your a strong woman, with a loving partner and 4 beautiful children.  That's your rock.  You are not in this fight alone, we are all in it with you.

    Warm wishes and Godspeed, Shakey xx

    • sarah44727
      sarah44727 Shakey1204

      Posted

      Thank you so much shakey it means alot and to be honest i think ive googled far to much can you get cyst in your lythnode as thats what doctor said is swollen but i suppose they dont really know till test are done.

      Do you know how long test results take and did you ever get any answers the same day?

      I hope you are well and thank you again x

    • Shakey1204
      Shakey1204 sarah44727

      Posted

      Hi Sarah,

      I luckily have not had any issues with lymph nodes. I have however had cysts in both breasts, overlies ( excruciating when bursting), behind my left ear and worst of all panty line of crotch!!!

      Im not sure but I think cysts can form in just about any part of the body.  Google it and see??

      Results.... ONCE is how often over the past 20 years that I got a result the same day as a biopsy.  That however, was a lumpectomy in hospital and I was absolutely blessed with a simply fantastic surgeon.

      Are you in the UK?  If your anywhere near " The Lister Hospital". My old specialist is now there. Buggar moved half a planet away from me....

      Peter Barry has the best bed side manner of any doctor or specialist I've ever seen!  He made the results speedy because he knew how scared I was.

      Hope this helps xx

    • sarah44727
      sarah44727 Shakey1204

      Posted

      I will google and see. Wow you are a brave lady keep going though them scares must be awful, i am in the uk im in sheffield so will go to hallamshire hospital, im not holding out to much hope as to getting results that day then, looks like more waiting x
    • Shakey1204
      Shakey1204 sarah44727

      Posted

      You are brave too, you just don't know it yet. Stand tall and glare straight ahead at the fear of what might be with the hope of what can be.

      We are all here to back you every step of the way x

    • sarah44727
      sarah44727 Shakey1204

      Posted

      Your right im causing myself way to much stress, thank you i will keep u all informed x
  • sarah44727
    sarah44727

    Posted

    Im getting nervous now its getting closer to thursday even though i may not find out anything that day. as well as my lump under my arm pit i can feel 2 little lumps/thickening on my breast but on the edge i dont know if im just feeling to hard but ive not felt them before could just be a fatty bump or something thats got bad timing, im sooo scared im getting backache between my shoulder blades think this is due to a slight cold/runny nose i dont have a cough or anything but also think its stress. feeling it today just felt i needed to write something get it off my shoulders.
    • lynda20916
      lynda20916 sarah44727

      Posted

      Hi Sarah,

      I can understand what you're going through!  But please remember that finding out what's going on will take some time. The waiting is necessary, because the doctors will know more after they see you and possibly do tests.  The results will let them respond appropriately.

      Try not to lose heart!  Be good to yourself and take it easy, as much as you can.  We're here for you! x

    • Shakey1204
      Shakey1204 sarah44727

      Posted

      Hi Sarah

      Shoulder/back pain is no doubt due to the stress your feeling.  Treat yourself to a massage to help you relax. Have a soak in a nice hot tub with some lavender oil and play some relaxing music.  Both will help, if you've found more lumps, report them to your doc.

      Im in Oz and its Sat arvo so I'm guessing you've had your appointment?

      Hope all is well, warm wishes, shake.

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