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Impotence/anxiety?

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dougied85
dougied85

Not sure if this is the right forum for this, but worth a shot.

I'm a 36 year old male, and I have never had a very high sex drive.  No idea why, but that's just how it's been.  However, up until recently, I have been perfectly capable of having great sex with my wife.  For a while now, I've run into an issue where I'm not able to 'finish'.  I have no problem getting an erection and maintaining it, but for some reason I just can't get to the point of orgasm.

It seems to be that I'm over-thinking it now - i.e. I'm so worried about not reaching orgasm that I'm trying too hard to do so and the thought of it is preventing it from happening.  And so I seem to have ended up in this never-ending cycle.

Any ideas?  Is this a physical thing, mental thing or both?  I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression in the last year but this issue has been going on for a while before that.  I'm also wondering if anything can be done about a very low sex drive in general?  Any help or pointing in the right direction appreciated.

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  • matthew7979
    matthew7979 dougied85

    Posted

    One thing you can do which I did is go and see your doctor. For a long time I was just low on energy and depressed and we found out two things...  one my thyroid was not working properly. The damn thyroid I'd one of the most important things in your body so it has to run correctly. Medication has helped mine. Also my doctor found out I had low testosterone count. So between both, I received a medication and a gel, my body is back to working normally. That information could set your anxiety at ease and bring things back to focus. 
  • matt82320
    matt82320 dougied85

    Posted

    Hi Dougied, not sure if you are on meds for anxiety and depression, but that can cause the problem you have described. Talk to the Doctor that diagnosed you. He is most likely aware of any side effects and remedies. Exercising, eating right and getting enough water and sleep can help too. Sometimes we can get used to the way things are, so spicing it up from time to time in the romance department can help. 
  • andrew66395
    andrew66395 dougied85

    Posted

    I wonder if you are on or have been on any mind altering drugs, any antidepressants or anti anxiety drugs? These can cause anorgasmia because they can numb the pleasure centers in your brain. They can even do this long after you have discontinued taking them. Other medicines that can do this are the beta-blockers.
  • dougied85
    dougied85

    Posted

    I am on anti-depressants, however this problem has existed since before I started taking them so I don't believe they would be the cause although admittedly they may not be helping matters.

    Interesting to hear your story matthew7979 - it may be worth another trip to the GP when I can pluck up the courage and talk to him about this.

    Thanks all for the advice so far.

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