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indulge in fantasy and never bring it to reality

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Hakuna_matata
Hakuna_matata

Funny really the idea of things is so powerful do we actually ever have the business to make it reality

I believe that we should want for the most ugliest things ya know want them then we can never be disappointed or hurt by an idea fantasy is better than reality it's the sad truth

I think one one the hardest things we can master is how not to get carried away with the idea that the fantasy is indeed reality

Words are so powerful love, hate, trust, are such strong word but do we ever truly know the meaning do they mean different thing to different people maybe so maybe that's an issue all on its own we indulge in it always thinking that those words have to same meaning to everyone that's the fantasy the reality the bitter one is they infact don't for instance love and trust they come hand and hand I've thought I've lived before a few times although when I think about it I never did trust anyone it's come to light you can't have one without the other and so I've infact never loved

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  • vicky51471
    vicky51471 Hakuna_matata

    Posted

    Sometimes a fantasy should be just that I think something that's in the mind but it's not played out thats my opinion.

    I have a saying i use all the time don't look forward to anything then you won't be disappointed " because if happiness or something good happens it's a bonus!!! I'd say it nearly everyday!!!!

    I think when it comes love we lose charge of our emotions..

    You're right you can't love without trust i know this i was married to a man for 16 years. I loved him but he was a cruel man. I look back i didn't trust him I had good reason not too. That was not love.

    No trust no communication violence affairs no no not love.

    I moved on met some one else I know it's love..we fell in love it's the communication and trust. With that you can open up see each others true being. Be a friend be caring have fun , help the other be contented with each other. I never wanted fancy houses cars. I just like many of us wanted and yearned to be loved and I am now.

    Mike there is love out there it can be just a word to some people but we know when it's from the heart.

    Trust is another word people just say oh yeah I do trust you then go through your phone. Or I do trust you I trust you with my feelings my heart.

    Another saying lol "hate is to stronger emotion to waste on someone you don't care about"...

    We have to look forward though don't we...

    I'm 39 now I never thought I would be loved I thought it was too late.

    Love and trust are keyou like you said that's the grounds of a relationship xx

    I hope you are okay

    Vicky

    • Hakuna_matata
      Hakuna_matata vicky51471

      Posted

      What a really nice post Vicky so heart felt

      So in touch with your feelings that do special I appreciate the understanding your words and the way you put them together is amazing

      You deserve happiness I'm so glad you found it I myself have found love a very new love and I thing with trust comes more love

      I've never been one to talk of feelings often denied love exsists at all never told a person I appreciated them

      God forbid I'd say I needed a person what I've always needed I've found understanding ya know with understanding comes trust with trust comes love

      Turns out you can put Humpty Dumpty back together again!!!

      Xxx

    • amanda35274
      amanda35274 vicky51471

      Posted

      Aww were v alike u & me. All ive ever wanted is the same as u vicky. Never needed riches. My dad died wen i was 8 he served in ww2 in el alamein and was the most beautiful man ive ever known. From the little i remember b4 he passed was days @ the beach picnics so much love and warmth from him ive yearned the very same my whole life & give my daughter as much love my ? holds. Dont nd no diamonds fancy car just my heart and the lessons ive learnt from him & my beautiful stepdad who passed in sept i now hope to be in me. And wen everyone else tells me that im a good person all i need to do is believe it. ( sounds easy huh ) Hugs huni xxx

    • vicky51471
      vicky51471 amanda35274

      Posted

      You're right never wanted the material things in life just love and companionship

      The two main men in my life broke my heart .. Dad and husband. That's a whole another story! !

      I think it's lovely you have beautiful memories of your farther and step father!!

      I've found true love now and I know it is real.

      Don't feel bad about being happy you've got to live don't live sad if you've have some happiness like I said grab it with both hands. Its a wonderful journey.

      You are a good kind caring thoughtful person with a huge heart please don't doubt it BELIEVE IT! !!!!!

      Take care xx

      Vicky x

    • vicky51471
      vicky51471 Hakuna_matata

      Posted

      Glad things are working out for you.

      I think it's always lovely when someone meets the right one.

      Emotions like I said are out of our control when loves around!! cause you're tthinking not just for yourself. You have someone else's feelings and thoughts to consider.. them youto also.

      You said trust i think thats very true! you've gotta have that you know the transpanspansy of somone. Or else sometimes doubts creep in.

      So before that should it be communication??

      I am no expert it's just I'm with somone new that's how we started off and it's been great.

      My relationship before was the opposite.16 years of

      No communication no trust no friendship from him let alone companionship.

      Yearning and crying out for the affection and love i gave him but it never came..

      So it's not to late to find love or to find it again.

      Vicky

  • amanda35274
    amanda35274 Hakuna_matata

    Posted

    Love is most definately not fantasy. Although for some ppl i agree thats the best way for them xxx to have loved and lost in my opinion is better to have never been loved @ all xxxx
    • Hakuna_matata
      Hakuna_matata amanda35274

      Posted

      Ohhh Amanda, I'm so sorry ya know do you feel you have loved and lost?

      I don't want to disagree or argue tell you any thing that may upset or patronise you.

      What I will say is my perception of love is so deep now

      A mind connected with another true body and soul Hun, you get your trust from loading the gun and saying I'm a target for you knowing I mean really knowing deep inside that person will never pull the trigger and they know they can do the same and know the same about you.

      So you see I'm not sure you can actually ever have truely loved and lost at all!!

      Thinking so much of you xx

      Mike

    • vicky51471
      vicky51471 amanda35274

      Posted

      I'm with you

      Love is real....

      Love is truth, trust, transparency, commitment; communication, helping the other when they need picking up, understanding having a laugh bring comfortable with each other in am sat right now next to me is a man who loves respects me and all the above and all the above. It no Fantasy it's real..

      It's out there

      ...... it's a wonderful yet unknown journey xxx

      Vickyxx

      I hope you're on yours

    • vicky51471
      vicky51471 amanda35274

      Posted

      I totally agree Mandy! !

      Love is real it's no fantasy I'm sat with my love right now!!!

      It's a great journey

      I hope yours will be too

      Xxx

      Vickyxx

    • amanda35274
      amanda35274 Hakuna_matata

      Posted

      Aw nice to know yr thinking of me xx ive definately loved and lost at 43. Were allowed to differ arent we. Wishing u luck always. Mandy xx
    • amanda35274
      amanda35274

      Posted

      Hey u. Not been on site much except for impulsive times going thru a few tough things recently. But sorry if my text was a bit matter of fact was a bit of a mess xx hope you feel better soon after yr op hakuna xx
    • srk904471
      srk904471 amanda35274

      Posted

      it depends on so many factors, like whether it is attraction or soul love (transcending all externals), how love is felt (is it excitement or true spiritual love? depth of true love is always more satifying .). what is one's desires (like,  is it transcedentally rooted to beloved or is it wanting ever changing new faces?),

      So true love is not a fantasy but distinct and tangible aspect of consciousness aring from soul.

    • srk904471
      srk904471

      Posted

      here is what i read today on my facebook post from a friend quoting Einstein to his son. 

      ”When I proposed the theory of relativity, very few understood me, and what I will reveal now to transmit to mankind will also collide with the misunderstanding and prejudice in the world.

      I ask you to guard the letters as long as necessary, years, decades, until society is advanced enough to accept what I will explain below.

      There is an extremely powerful force that, so far, science has not found a formal explanation to. It is a force that includes and governs all others, and is even behind any phenomenon operating in the universe and has not yet been identified by us.

      This universal force is LOVE.

      When scientists looked for a unified theory of the universe they forgot the most powerful unseen force.

      Love is Light, that enlightens those who give and receive it.

      Love is gravity, because it makes some people feel attracted to others.

      Love is power, because it multiplies the best we have, and allows humanity not to be extinguished in their blind selfishness. Love unfolds and reveals.

      For love we live and die.

      Love is God and God is Love.

      This force explains everything and gives meaning to life. This is the variable that we have ignored for too long, maybe because we are afraid of love because it is the only energy in the universe that man has not learned to drive at will.

      To give visibility to love, I made a simple substitution in my most famous equation.

      If instead of E = mc2, we accept that the energy to heal the world can be obtained through love multiplied by the speed of light squared, we arrive at the conclusion that love is the most powerful force there is, because it has no limits.

      After the failure of humanity in the use and control of the other forces of the universe that have turned against us, it is urgent that we nourish ourselves with another kind of energy…

      If we want our species to survive, if we are to find meaning in life, if we want to save the world and every sentient being that inhabits it, love is the one and only answer.

      Perhaps we are not yet ready to make a bomb of love, a device powerful enough to entirely destroy the hate, selfishness and greed that devastate the planet.

      However, each individual carries within them a small but powerful generator of love whose energy is waiting to be released.

      When we learn to give and receive this universal energy, dear Lieserl, we will have affirmed that love conquers all, is able to transcend everything and anything, because love is the quintessence of life.

      I deeply regret not having been able to express what is in my heart, which has quietly beaten for you all my life. Maybe it’s too late to apologize, but as time is relative, I need to tell you that I love you and thanks to you I have reached the ultimate answer! “.Your father Albert Einstein

    • srk904471
      srk904471

      Posted

      sorry, it is from Einstein to his daughter Lieserl
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