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Infertility is making me feel like my life is over... what now?

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Jaclyn1983
Jaclyn1983

hi there!

im almost 36 years old. I've suffered on and off from depression - thankfully/blessed not for very long at all. It feels different now, almost permanent. I've gone through things these past 4 years that have changed me.

  1. I lost my grandmother quickly to lung cancer
  2. i met my husband
  3. I've had 2 miscarriages
  4. I had two surgeries to correct the miscarriage problem.
  5. i had my third miscarriage.
  6. I am now considered infertile.
  7. My husband has no sex drive or at least not one for me.
  8. I feel like my marriage is a sham. Whenever I am upset he goes to sleep. He doesnt act like a couple. I feel like after 3 miscarriages hes lost hope in me as well.

I just dont know what to do. I want a baby so badly. Every month i hope and pray and beg that it will come true for us, but it never does.

I guess being that im going on 36 I feel hopeless. My doctor told me he'd give me a hysterectomy (i had major surgery for large fibroid removal- he believed this was causing the miscarriages). I dont want to give up but i dont think i have this fight in me anymore.

i just dont know what to do...

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  • shay87
    shay87 Jaclyn1983

    Posted

    Have you considered adoption? I know its hard I am to infertile and pray one day that God will bless me with a miracle. I have thought about adoption and will likely raise one on my own in the future. their are a lot of children who need a home and a loving family.

    • Jaclyn1983
      Jaclyn1983 shay87

      Posted

      we have, we even spoke about fostering. adoption is a lot of money do we couldnt do that for a long time. to be approved we would also need a bigger house. (right now we have two bedrooms and two dogs... we were denied adopting a puppy because of the house size!!!!) i think my feelings of sadness are really coming from the yearning to carry a child. i never wanted children until i met him and until my first pregnancy. i pray for us both... anyone who has to suffer through this.

    • shay87
      shay87 Jaclyn1983

      Posted

      I hope the best for you stay patient and make lot's of prayers

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