Insecurity
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I have lately been accusing my boyfriend of betraying me. There is no evidence to suggest it but I keep going into dark thoughts, if he’s not talking to me he is with someone else or if he’s not around he’s with another girl. It gets me into such a panic where I go crazy and call him 30times to find out where he is and what he is doing. I fear that I am ruining a beautiful relationship because my mind is messing with my judgement. I have been badly hurt twice in the past and I think this has had a lasting effect but I don’t want it to ruin or lose what I have. I’ve never had this feeling before until recently two of my best friends had their now ex’s cheat on them and I fear that has heightened my suspicion. I want to get back to being okay and trusting him but I don’t know how
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ashley02537 Anonymous321
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This can happen even when your other half ismt doing anything wrong...just because it's happened in the past and to your friends doesn't mean it's happening to you...let you guard down and try to concentrate on all the happy stuff yall do and how he treats you
Anonymous321 ashley02537
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Thank you 🙏🏼 I have tried but I need to try harder to focus on the good things to get through this awful patch. He lives with his sister who travels a lot and is often alone with the housemate at home and I get so paranoid because he has looked at her in a particular way before. Am I just being ridiculous?
Matt_M Anonymous321
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Hi there,
Have you tried talking to your boyfriend about what is going on?
If you don't he is probably going to get fed up with all the checking up on him.
To constantly ring him is going to make him feel like you don't trust him and it really isn't nice to make someone feel like that (especially if they have not done anything to warrant it).
Talk things through with him!
Matt
Anonymous321 Matt_M
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He is actually really good about it, I tell him everything, even more detail on this matter than I have on here and he is really understanding about it. But he doesn’t know how to help. So I am looking for other ways to fix myself before I hurt him anymore
Matt_M Anonymous321
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How long have you been together?
Matt
Anonymous321 Matt_M
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borderriever Anonymous321
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Some people feel the investment they have, given a relationship has been so inclusive, the person is yours and you become so tied up with that person you become concerned that any feelings you may have are not being reciprocated
I do not know what situation you find this relationship, is it all encompassing between both of you or is it a relationship that only one of this Partnership doing all the running.
To be honest in my past I had only one relationship like yours and the relationship became very explosive and hurtful as my partner would lie, then completley change the lie on the off chance the lie would be more accessible
You need to ask yourself if you feel the relationship is built upon a lie, or Love, You may destroy your relationship if you carry on the way you are going.
Ask yourself what your expectations are, do not rely on gut feelings. If you cannot prove a lie it may be you should stop digging. However if you feel something is wrong and you cannot move on you may be better cutting and running the choice is yours. We do not know the dynamics of this relationship. Understand if your relationship eventually becomes an engagement, then living together ?, and doubts still rear its ugly head it will be more destructive if the relationship has become overwhelming.
Remember you will need to trust this person and if you are still chewing fat, you are not doing anyone any favours
BOB