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My name is Randy and was in a past relationship with someone i loved very, very much. My significant other had bipolar 2. I thought about her for many years and always hoped we would reconnect one day. That relationship was 14 years ago now but we've recently reconnected (May of 2016). It was a long distance relationship so it already had some challenges but that doesn't deter true love...at least for me. Anyway, i talked online with her, texts, email, skype etc..almost daily. I had been to visit her about six or seven times and everything seemed okay for a while then we actually discussed marriage. We were "in love" and it seemed the next logical step for both of us. We're both in our forties so it was definitely on the table. She was fired from her job in the summer of 2016 so she was very down about that but i told her I supported her no matter what. She has been very depressed for many months now and i tried to help but you can't just change how someone feels. I would do anything in the world for her because she's "the love of my life". She has a house very close to her parents house and they love her and support her when she needs it but i also love and support her. The main problem is we live 670 miles away from each other. Long distance relationships are pretty tough but not impossible as long as both parties are on the same page. Long story shorter....This past November 2016 she picked out a ring, a very expensive one i might add. But i told her to pick the one she liked the most no matter the cost and she did. She told which one it was and i bought it immediately. Had to go to the bank several times and talked with the jeweler a few times as well but it was worth it for the love of my life! I decided i would propose on New Year's Eve 2017 when i visited her for the last time. I tried to book an evening out mutliple times before and she declined all of them so i had to alter my plans. Okay, so I would just propose to her at her house that night and ring in the new year with my future wife. Well that day was okay and night comes and she starts drinking, etc... but that didn't deter me because i figured she would be so happy to see the ring she picked and the man she'd been discussing marriage with presenting it. I couldn't have been more wrong. 12:00am January the 1st strikes and i proposed right there on her couch at her house. She gave me this look of "deer in the headlights" and muttered I'm bipolar. Didn't pick the ring up and even look at it. I was "devastated" to say the least. So now i have this expensive ring that can't be returned and a blossoming relationship that stopped dead in its tracks. We talked for a few weeks in January then she said she couldn't handle the pressure i put her under. I am not perfect and never claimed to be. I had been trying to contact her about a death in one our mutual friends families. Then another good friend of mine killed hiimself (found out at the funeral he was also bipolar). I was not in a good place mentally myself after her answer and the two deaths back to back of people i love. I just wanted to talk to her. I wasn't trying to harm her in any way, nor was i trying to put pressure on her. She has not tried to contact me since January 19th, 2017. I have not tried to contact her either. I am completely crushed. I hope this never happens to anyone else.
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