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sarah68196
sarah68196

How have you ladies found intercourse after your op? Painful ? Strange , not at all ?

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  • raggydoll
    raggydoll sarah68196

    Posted

    Hi Sarah, I'm almost 8 weeks post op. Not tried intercourse yet, but have tried outer course redface which was fine.
  • kathy59767
    kathy59767 sarah68196

    Posted

    Too soon for me... it's only been two weeks... I was planning on tentatively trying at about the 6 week mark so would be interested to hear what others say, particularly anyone who had a vaginal hysterectomy (although I assume they still have to have an incision in there also in the abdominal one?)... 
    • shani1953
      shani1953 kathy59767

      Posted

      Hi Kathy

      I am just past 6 weeks recovery after a vaginal hysterectomy and anterior repair.  I was very fortunate in having a brilliant surgeon and had no pain or discomfort at all afterwards or during my recovery.  I am in a fairly new relationship and had to tell my partner that this op was planned in the first week of meeting him!  He has been very supportive and understanding and I am pleased to report that sex at 6 weeks post op has been almost normal! Some of the stitches in the vagina are still to heal and obviously I still feel a bit cautious but otherwise no pain or bleeding.  You are right to try tentatively first and you will know how far you can go each time but best of luck - I'm sure you will be fine.

      Shani

      x

    • kathy59767
      kathy59767 shani1953

      Posted

      That's very reassuring Shani, thank you so much.  And he definitely sounds like a 'keeper' btw! :-)
  • Clarissabelle
    Clarissabelle sarah68196

    Posted

    Too soon for me as well at nearly four weeks vaginal hysterectomy.  I ll keep you posted. wink
  • bridy16825
    bridy16825 sarah68196

    Posted

    Hi I'm just over 5 weeks TAH...... I don't think I'm ever going to have sex again !!!!...... So when you all do I'm going to need convincing that it's not going to be like having a baby but 20 times worse!!!!! X
  • sarah68196
    sarah68196

    Posted

    Aww thanks for the replys . I have tried gently but it did feel uncomfortable , I wouldn't say really sore but just not right . Seeing my consultant this week . Will let you know his advise

    Xx

  • raggydoll
    raggydoll sarah68196

    Posted

    Its a subject that doesn't get talked about enough, so thank you for starting it. I will be keeping an eye on the replies. I have been signed off from my consultant now, so I will be interested to hear what yours has to advisex
  • linda33333
    linda33333 sarah68196

    Posted

    7 weeks post op b4 tried bit nervous but ok I'm now nearly 12 was and must say much better than b4 op it's like I'm a new woman haha
    • bridy16825
      bridy16825 linda33333

      Posted

      Yeaaaahhhhhh........ladies there is hope for us all!!!! Linda you have now set the benchmark!!!! Xxx
    • linda33333
      linda33333 bridy16825

      Posted

      Lol good trust me it's sooo much better no worries about pain or the risk of getting caught out by the dreaded bleed x
  • katrina1972
    katrina1972 sarah68196

    Posted

    Hi Ladies.

    I am 6 weeks post op and do not have my follow up appointment until the end of April!

    I decided to go see my lady doc last week as wanted to know how things were healing inside and she said all is fine,still a little raw and not all stitches have disolved, but said all looks as she would expect at this stage, which is good smile

    Having said that I don't think I could even think about having sex yet, it scares me too much lol 

    I am glad you started this post Sarah smile

  • christelle48036
    christelle48036 sarah68196

    Posted

    Hi all

    6 weeks today for me. Not even thinking about sex yet. Getting the hoover out today terrified me lol.

  • Luckymum
    Luckymum sarah68196

    Posted

    We tried at the weekend. I had to be careful as I've been having a heavy discharge which is not fully diagnosed yet. My consultant said no sex before discharge had stopped. It has almost fully stopped now so we decided (with the help of a bottle of wine! wink ) to see how things went. Everything was fine and it was such a relief (in more ways than one wink ) to get the 'first' time over with. Because of my discharge not being fully diagnosed we did 'pull out' just before the end but otherwise things were great smile
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum

      Posted

      Duh sorry at that point I was 7.5 weeks post TAH xx
    • sarah68196
      sarah68196 Luckymum

      Posted

      Aww that's good news ! I think a bottle of wine will be needed for me next time too :-) I do worry that this will effect this side of my relationship as you hear so often that your sex drive can go :-( my husband had been great though , I do feel sorry for them too ! Xx
    • bridy16825
      bridy16825 Luckymum

      Posted

      Go you.......6 weeks tomorrow but the thought terrifies me!!!!!
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum sarah68196

      Posted

      It helps when you have an understanding hubby smile We had, had a lovely day with a meal out at lunch time, followed by wine so it seemed to flow quite naturally smile x
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum bridy16825

      Posted

      Take it at your own pace Bridy, there are no rules other than waiting at LEAST 6 weeks, no one says it has to be done then, it could be 7,8,9 weeks or even longer, it doesn't matter as long as you feel comfortable, if you try to rush it when you are not ready, it will add stress to the situation and then things will not be very good and so starts a vicious circle. Try doing something nice together, we went for a meal and hubby gave me lots of cuddles and kisses during the evening, although there were absolutely no plans at all to 'do the deed' we went to bed and cuddled and things just happened, no pressure, no stress. Good luck xxx
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