Intimacy and normality 6 week check up

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Six week check up - surgeon happy. Prolapse is supported and whilst I do still have stitches, all is well. So relieved!!! It’s been a rollercoaster of recovery - panic over stitches coming away too early, an infection, awful pain and immobility but finally I feel like I can start getting my life back. The surgeon was keen for me to try sex again. So we took the plunge. I was so tense so can’t say I enjoyed it as such (although I did enjoy the closeness after so long). Hubby said it was tighter than before (bonus) and he did not feel any stitches or have any discomfort. I did bleed after and continue to bleed a little now. I am so sore today too. I know this is a personal question but I wondered how others found sex after a posterior repair with perienum reconstruction? I’m consistently worried about undoing the repair or tearing but want normality and intimacy as I had before. My only complaint now is lower back pain which is ongoing.

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    I do hope it gets better for you as I have just had this and hoping our sex life will go back to normal once I'm healed. Don't know how long it will take for me to heal but only a week so far after the operation..I'm really scared that things are going to change for me and hubby x

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      Hi, thanks for your reply. I had the same concerns and it was not until about a week ago that I started to think about sex again. Wishing you well in your recovery 
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    I read somewhere that there are less "complications" when the hubby is on the bottom for (at least) the first several times.

    I think that makes sense because your in the driver's seat ( so to speak) so both physically and mentally you have control.

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