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Intimacy with LS? Help!

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karen23320
karen23320

Diagnosed with LS 7 weeks ago. Used Emuaid Maxx and Emuaid and everything is healed, calm and good. Finally tried intercourse and all went fine, lots of lubricant and took it slow and gentle.  Now I am so upset right, I don’t even know what to do! Hubby and I went to a concert, I had a bunch of wine, my inhibitions were down, and I told him  that the Dr.  had given us homework begore I see him ahain in 2 weeks. We were supposed to hv oral sex and report back to him on whether it was the same sensitivity, less sensitivity or painful? Hubby  said “ well the thought of oral sex is not  really appealing while you are peeling? And I am like “ peeling! What are you talking about? Everything is all healed up. “. ?? And he’s liked “ it is? Well maybe tomorrow”... and I’m thinking “ oh sure, she’s  good enough to f**k, ( sorry ladies, anger talking here) , but I’m not going down there”, and my heart is breaking! Is this going to be what it’s  like from now on? It’s not my fault that I got some stupid disease, and maybe he’s not the guy I thought he was? 💔💔💔 30 - plus years.... agh!!! I’m Sleeping  on livingroom couch, crying, while he sleeps the night away in our bed.... 

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  • leslea_03810
    leslea_03810 karen23320

    Posted

    o Karen just think of this, you are in recovery from LS something that a lot don't reach. So if you are peeling you may need more time, this is about your health . Ok do you use a mirror next time have a look at LS make sure everything looks right . Then try again with hubby don't mention doctors homework again, make it about lovers not are you cured yet. Be happy you are winning with LS. Leslea

    • karen23320
      karen23320 leslea_03810

      Posted

      Thx Leslea- He apologized this AM, said I caught him off- guard. He has been trying to surpress his pwn desires while I heal and then I sprung this on him. I was trying to be spontaneous because the last time It was so clinical- wash with this, lube with this, etc....

      I hv a tendency to “overcommunicate” so I think I’ve freaked him out a little and he doesn’t know what to expect. 

      He really is a great guy and says he us here to love and support me. 

      No peeling, never was.... Emuaid healed all and everything is good down there. 

      We’ll try again ....

  • Guppy007
    Guppy007 karen23320

    Posted

    Hi Karen, men arent all that good at keeping up with what is going on with us down below...and let's face it it can change weekly.

    I also think they can be babies and a bit squeamish about the stuff we talk about with no holds barred. I wonder where he got the idea that you are peeling..Oh well, it just sounds like a horrible misunderstanding compounded by a couple of glasses of wine. 

    Moving forward you might want to only tell him what is really necessary as I have learned that's the best thing with my husband...they can't really understand completely as they dont have vaginas! cheesygrin

  • car1811
    car1811 karen23320

    Posted

    Hi Karen,

    I am 26 years old and have suffered for nearly four years. I have been i n a relationship for three years in January. I have so far managed to keep Lichens a secret. Im finding it so difficult on the weeks i really struggle. I hope you are ok i can imagine how hard it must be. ?

    • karen23320
      karen23320 car1811

      Posted

      Hi Car- I am doing okay. My LS is under control at the moment with help of Emu-aid ointment. I think I just surprised him because  we have had intercourse, but i hv not allowed him to engage in oral sex. When I asked him to try it the other night he was shocked and surprised and I think I “ shared too much” of what could happen , NOT what was happening and it freaked him out. 

      We hv been togetger since I was 16, dated 6 years, married 25 years in September, and he’s a really great guy, just doesn’t handle “ medical- talk” well... 

      A bit tingly this AM, probably due to the Soft pretzel I shared with the family last night- damn gluten!!

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