Irrational thought
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hi everyone
is anyone here experience,of being attached to a person like my experience today i have a friend and we are nieghbors we are both have a family and husband.my friends husband and i are closed and nothing malice but my my mind has the problem. because of negative thoughts about those what if i have crush on my friends husband but my heart is belongs only to my family and husband why i overthink it. plsss need help! or advice.i got anxiety because of that thought.
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jan34534 albert81684
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it’s natural to be attracted to somebody whether it’s a physical attraction or personality. That’s just human nature.
Instead of getting anxious when you have the thought, just acknowledge that the thought is there. let it be there for a few seconds or so, and then do something else or think of something else.tell yourself it’s perfectly normal but that’s all it’s going to be is a thought.
The main thing is not to ever act on that thought. Because affairs destroy families, including children.
Nothing is worth risking that. when you are married, there are boundaries with friendships.
And nothing more beautiful than loyalty to a husband or a wife and children.
albert81684 jan34534
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yeah i think its normal only my thoughts are negative
k08610 albert81684
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Sounds like a OCD trait, which I have along with anxiety and depression. This has been me over and over again. Try your best to place no value on thoughts eventually they will fade and unfortunately a new one will take its place.
albert81684 k08610
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how did you cope your OCD?
k08610 albert81684
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It's an every day struggle, the less stress I have in my life the better I am. If I don't take care of myself it gets worse. I stay away from sugar, simple carbs, processed foods, gluten, dairy, processed oils, and try to eat as clean as possible. Organic veggies, salads, seeds, pasture raised chicken and eggs, grass fed meat. But I'm more plant based, I eat meat but limit to less then 4 ounces 3 to 4 times a week. I try to eat more wild caught salmon, cod, sardines. Fish with low mercury. It's not a cure to OCD but it helps.
k08610 albert81684
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Sounds like an OCD trait, which I have, along with anxiety and depressiom. This has been me over and over again. Try your best to place no value on the thoughts eventually they will fade and unfortunately a new one will take its place.
david76205 albert81684
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maybe you are not as happy as you think with your husband and you want more or something different. we all get bored with our lives at some point. your mind is creating its own stimulus with these fantasy thoughts about your friends husband. its not uncommon and as long as you dont act on those feelings everything will be fine. you probably are flirting with him without even knowing it. if its a problem for you to be around them because of these thoughts, maybe you can take a break. take a weekend off alone with your husband, a romantic get away and try to reconnect and remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. nothing good can come from your crush on your friends husband, so you have to remember that as you dont want to hurt your friend or your own family. just let it go, its okay to be friendly as long as you are in complete control of yourself. i think you will be fine, and i think you are well aware of the reprocussions these feelings could lead to and why you wont act upon them. so relax, stop having anxiety about it. if you cant, then stay away from them for awhile or see them less.
albert81684 david76205
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honestly im happy w/my husband. i have only thoughts that ruined.maybe i have OCD.honeslty me my friends are really closed.
david76205 albert81684
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so take him out and appreciate him. wipe those other thoughts from your mind. as penance for thinking about another guy, you should buy your husband a new tool or perhaps video game he likes. when he asks why you bought it for him, tell him you bought it because you love and appreciate him. it should go over very well and you may even want to get intimate with him. but stop teasing yourself with thoughts about the neighbors husband. discipline yourself.
albert81684 david76205
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yeah,i think my mind jump to conclusion,its already happened to me to other guy i know.but it happened again.its feel like new
david76205 albert81684
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just control your mind from wandering. you will be just fine. a treat your husband extra nice.
albert81684 david76205
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we dont have problem w/our relationship me w/my husband were intact.may husband know s it.i tell him about my thougths regarding that guy and he comforts me he tells that is only thougts.
david76205 albert81684
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Wow, thats really healthy. Good for you. So no more anxiety now, right?
albert81684 david76205
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i still have the thought,but i control it.still i have anxiety symptoms like headache.heavy on my chest and backpain.
david76205 albert81684
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have you considered the pains and symptoms could be due to allergies or sinus problems? it is pollen season. it can cause headaches and chest pains. just saying. Sounds like you have your anxiety pretty much in check, so maybe its something else?