Is anyone ever 'cured' or is it just dealing with it forever?
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Anxiety has destroyed my life.
I lived the first 26 years of my life in "normal" power. But something happened to me around my 27th birthday, call it "Saturn's Return" or any other crystal-gazing bull to excuse it. Butn something happened to me at 27 that I honestly can't put my finger on, and I've spent the last 15 years living in sheer hell trying to front every work/social situation and act like I'm not sweating losing my mind.
I've tried CBT. Nope.
I've tried SSRI's and put on about 6 stone.
I've tried mindfullness, I've tried yoga. I've tried grabbing my balls and "manning up".
I've tried... I've tried...
Nothing works.
Has anyone on this website ever developed an adult anxiety and found a way to get over it and lead a powerful life, or is the 21st century now just about keyboard warriors who are destined to talk a good game but ultimately spend their reality eating dunkin donuts in their mom's basement?
Any cures?
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jkennethg withnail1998
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Anxiety, unfortunately, has become part of your life... BUT it might have become your greatest enemy but take some solace in knowing that you can overcome this!
At 27, something happened to you physically that affected your brain that changed you. I like to think that these events are chemical changes in your body, triggered by electrical discharges of your synapses, that happen because of the evolving of your body, i.e., aging. What this means is your mental state of being is affected by physical changes and not by some "mysterious" event! What the real mystery is trying to find out exactly what happened and how to correct that problem! However, because medicine is an imperfect science that is literally evolving day-to-day, trying to figure out your problem is literally trying to hit a tiny moving target with a very small bullet!
Do I have an answer to your problem? No. But I can share some advice that seemed to have worked for me: Realization.
I realized that only I suffer my malady. My anxiety is mine alone. People can (try to) help me and be nice or stern or indifferent but it's still ALL mine! I own it! Once I realized that, I set out to find ways to overcome it. Not "fight" in the literal sense, but overcome... (in my mind, the word "fighting" is negative and "overcome" is positive so I chose to use the latter word) What did I do? I changed my lifestyle a bit. A bit - not a lot - because people don't like big changes and I knew that big changes would be more difficult to deal with - so I changed my life a bit - at a time! All this started around 2-3 years ago...
I cut down my drinking - no more drunken binges for me! Just a beer or two once or twice a week. I started eating healthy - as best as I can with green salads. Most my meals are home-made and I will indulge in a pizza or fastfood once or twice a month, if that! I made it a point to exercise at least 4-5 times a week for at least an hour at a time. Come on now, 5 hours a week devoted to your health and wellness (a week has what? 168 hours? 5 hours is barely .03% of that time!) can't be all that imposing can it? I have plantar fasciitis in my left heel so it hurts like hell when I walk or run but I don't have much choice if want to overcome this. But you gotta do it man! I like the exercise because I don't think about anything else but what I'm doing at the time and unlike yoga, which tends to be very static, walking and some running is motion and motion to me is good - provided of course you are physically able to ambulate!
You asked if anyone gets cured of this? As the sole owner of my anxiety, I can tell you that no, I'm not cured - yet. But I'm overcoming it and working at it every day. When I feel a panic attack coming on, I don't fight it. I don't "panic" about it and just let it take it's course knowing that it won't hurt me. When I start to have sad or scary thoughts, I pray. The Lord's prayer. It's one I know very well so I use it as often as I need to - I'm sure the man upstairs has no problem with it!
I could go on but frankly, I'm not in the mood to write a book so I'll end with this: "The Power of Positive Thinking" - remember that. Very important! I know it sounds cliche' but it really works - and get sweating through exercise - nothing like a dose of natural endorphins to lift you up! And good luck - I mean it! I'm pulling for you to OVERCOME!!!