Is it herpes help

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I've been diagnosed with herpes today after I went to see my doctor . This all came about when 3 days ago I was with my boyfriend and he fingerd me but I started to bleed I was freaked out as it was not somthing I expected but he was concerned as to if I was ok ... I thought that he might just have cut me with his nail or went to rough as it was rough / good at times ,we both lost our Virgnites to each other and have had sex twice since that's why it didn't make sense as to why I bled .... It hurts to pee and I got a little brown discharge . When the doctor checked me today I was terrified I didn't know what to expect but I checked myself out before and could find nothing she took a swab test and told me that it's like one little spot and said it was herpes she didn't explain much to me and just put me on tablets two a day for a week . I'm freaked out and I'm afraid to have sex or even if it will come back I don't realise how I got this because my boyfriend has never been with anyone else or had no cold sore

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  • Posted

    It depends on what type you have

    If you have Type 2 then more then likely someone isn't being all the way honest with their sexual past .

    If you have type 1 below that is something different

    Does your first have any past with cold sores ??

    Did you get a swab test or anything done ?

    She shouldn't just self diagnosed you .. You need to know for sure .

    • Posted

      She said it was one ... I'm only 18 so this is all new to me , she took a swab test but didn't say if she would contact me with the results , no he didn't have any sort of cold Sore or never has . I honestly don't know what to do I'm afraid to ever have sex again and I can not tell my boyfriend !
    • Posted

      If she took a swab Test then she has to call you to give your results..

      That's just the bottom line

      But what you say doesn't all the way seem like herpes and self diagnosis isn't good because the doctor that was looking at mine wasn't even going to swab me for herpes until I told her too ...

      You should definitely talk to him find out what's going on with him and have him get a blood test done if he has no signs of sores

      Even tho it might be too early to detect right now ..

      It's crazy .

      Don't be scared if he is your one and only then he is the one who did this to you !

  • Posted

    Have you talked to your boyfriend about it?
    • Posted

      No I haven't and I don't plan on it until another outbreak or I know for sure I have it he would be so freaked out and i love him to much to let that happen
    • Posted

      There's a pretty strong likelihood that he'll find out one way or another. I'm not trying to push you into anything, but... It's better to be honest now than sorry later.
    • Posted

      Then you should talk to him about it for your own sake. But that's just, like, my opinion, man.
  • Posted

    Visual diagnoses are not accurate. Wait for your swab results first. There's a chance she's wrong.
    • Posted

      How long do they usually take to get the results back , she didn't say if she was going to contact me
    • Posted

      It varies depending on the type of swab test and clinic. Viral culture and public healthcare take longer (possibly a week) than a pcr swab or private clinic (couple of days). Best thing is to call back and ask for your results after a week, if you've still not heard anything. If your results still aren't ready, ask when can you expect them and whether they'll call regardless of your test results, etc.
    • Posted

      Ok thank you , does it sound like I have it from the information above
    • Posted

      Not exactly. Herpes doesn't cause bleeding. Herpes can cause burning urination, however, but so can a UTI. Herpes usually presents with lesions. You supposedly have one, but it could equally be a bump from something else. If you are both genuinely virgins, it's not HSV-2. Likely not anyway, given your ages.

      Worst case scenario, if it is herpes, it's HSV-1 from oral sex. If you have not received oral sex, then that's also unlikely! Fyi, oral herpes (cold sores) can exist in a person without causing symptoms, and when acquired genitally, besides the first outbreak, it's really not that bad for most people.

    • Posted

      No like we had sex but it was about a month and a half ago , it hurts to wee but I bled when he fingerd me on Friday but I thought he just cut me or went to rough because I was sore after and then all of a sudden this has all happend and I just am so worried because I'm always careful and he's never had a cold sore or been with anyone else he's so loyal that's what I just don't understand she didn't even tell me much about it literally printed off forms and told me to read them she didn't say not to have sex or anything or tell him she just told me to ask him if he gets cold sores
    • Posted

      You can have the cold sore virus (oral herpes) without ever having a cold sore, so him having no cold sores doesn't mean much. But if you did not receive oral sex, then that's unlikely he gave you HSV-1 genitally, even if he carries it orally (and he may well not have it orally). If you did receive oral sex, it's possible, but bleeding is not due to herpes and your symptoms could be anything else at this stage. Your doctor does not sound very helpful or nice at all!
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      Yeah she didn't give me any information I'm 18 and I've no clue what to do I'm not telling my parents but I told my bestfriend and even she was like it doesn't seem right you only got fingerd and bled then and since then it's hurt you not after sex so it really makes no sense to me it's still a bit sore down there but it could be anything
    • Posted

      So, you didn't receive oral sex recently and the last actual sex was a month ago? Then I seriously doubt it's herpes of any kind. Maybe you have a slight vaginal injury and infection from the fingering. Your doctor is not only unhelpful and unpleasant, but failed to ask you the right questions! Next time, it's better that you see a different doctor.
    • Posted

      Today when I went toilet I bled too the pain is really uncomfortable and sore
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      Like I rang her back up and told her that I just bled twice when I went to the toilet but there is still like a spot or lump inside my vagina but she said because I bled now to come collect antibiotics for my bladder tomorrow so do you think I still have herpes with all this going on even though there is a spot inside my vagina
    • Posted

      I've already said what I think. Not genital Type 2, could be genital Type 1, but unlikely if you didn't receive oral sex within the last week or two, and just as likely (if not possibly more so) to be something else at this stage, like a general vaginal/bladder infection.

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