Is it normal to be in bed all day?

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For around a year now i have been in my bed for the whole day except for when i go to the shops and etc, sometimes i do go out with my friends but its only a couple times a month at least, I'm only 14 years old and i have been diagnosed with social anxiety, i could be out with my friends but i just cant be bothered, i mean its not like i hate being around them but i just feel uncomfortable and constantly on edge around everyone (even my family) i feel like they are constantly judging me and talking about me behind my back, mostly people will even have certain looks on their faces that make me feel like they think I'm weird or there is something wrong with me so I spend most of my time upstairs in my room, i would like to hang out more with my friends but i think I'd just make things weird between everyone especially since when i was really upset like a few months ago i said some stuff i wish i hadn't and i left one of my friends without thinking about how they would feel

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    Hi Teabecca

    i have this also, social anxiety can be difficult to manage, when i feel like this, i let everyone else do the talking and just prefer to listen. it gets better with age plus once your out of school etc, you get a better chance to find like minded people. its not good to stay in bed all day though, try and keep your mind productive by pursuing your interests and maybe consider talking to a cbt (cognative behavioural therapist) they can help you just through talking and also coping strategies

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    Hi I got some news for you my love - you are simply not important enough for others to be constantly monitoring or judging your behaviour. They are much too busy with their own lives and doings to consider yours. Why do you think they would want to spend so much time and effort on you? Do you think about others a lot and keep judging them? No of course you don't and neither do they trust me!.

    The worst thing you can do is hide yourself away and stay in bed. Are you going to do this for the rest of your life? The longer you do it for the longer it will take for you to start feeling more comfortable around people, so start doing a few small things and take it slowly but it is very important you do this. x

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