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Is it normal to become scared of sudden death?

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darren54615
darren54615

Hi people, hope everyone is good. I’m so scared of sudden death syndrome I’ve never experienced it in my family or known anyone it’s happened to but I’m absolutely terrified about it, as I feel it’s all you hear about is people’s deaths now says and sudden death it’s really drying me scary. I’ve been on and off sore head lately and body aches (due to health anxiety) but I feel like it’ll happen to me soon and it’s making me so sad and ruining my life because I just want to get on with life and move on because one day I won’t be here we all won’t and I don’t want to be regretting not experiencing everything I want to, but I get scared playing football and doing stuff incase I just die it worries me so badly I really hate this fear I wish I never have it I suffer from health anxiety so it must be that that’s making me think like this but I can’t go on like this forever I really can’t. Any advise because I feel like I’m going to collapse soon or just die😭 I can’t go on like this anyone every experienced this any advise thank you. 

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  • Philly89
    Philly89 darren54615

    Posted

    I have struggled with anxiety for years but I'm having health anxiety lately bc of a loved one passing away suddenly. You do hear stories like that all the time, but I had never known anyone that passed away without warning before. She was my mother in law and she had just gotten diagnosed with breast cancer, but the Drs all said she had like a 90% chance of success bc she caught it very early. She was only on her 2nd chemo treatment and she came out of the treatment that day and collapsed. She never came back. They still don't know how she died, they ruled out heart attack, pulminary emoblism, and the cancer from being the cause. The suddenness and the without explanation of her death is really affecting me a lot. I keep feeling every bump on my body and thinking omg is it cancer, I've been hyper sensitive to how I'm feeling. I was getting bad chest pains for 2 months and I thought I was having heart issues so I got an EKG done but it came back totally fine. Those pains have disappeared now and instead I've been having tension headaches a lot. It's so frustrating to be constantly worried, so I understand how you feel. I just keep thinking well it happened to her, why not me? But I have started seeing a therapist and I think it is really helping. I suggest seeing one if you haven't yet! She's helping me to cope and get past this anxiety and the grieving stage I am in still.

    • darren54615
      darren54615 Philly89

      Posted

      Thank you so much. I think it’s more when I’m alone I think more about it, I get sensations all the time and sometimes pains. But when I’m with my girlfriend and family I tend to just get on with it, I still worry but it’s when I sit doubt doing nothing I go onto google and I’m have every illness under the book, it’s so scary if I’m honest. But the sudden death is so scary because I want to live my life and just get on with it but that kind of holds me back to be fair, but one day hopefully I’ll over come it 
    • Philly89
      Philly89 darren54615

      Posted

      Yeah if you only feel it when you're alone and not as much when you're distracted, that's how you know it is definitely just anxiety. My therapist tried to help me to understand health anxiety by explaining that just bc i THINK something is wrong with me, does not mean there is actually anything wrong. It's all mental, just like when u think u feel nervous and in danger (panic/anxiety attacks), when ur actually not in danger at all and rlly shudnt b nervous. Thinking that you're going to die suddenly, and feeling like you are, is not going to actually make u die. All it is is negative thoughts and all it will do is make you feel crappy. You can't think yourself into death. Just think of it that way haha.

    • darren54615
      darren54615 Philly89

      Posted

      I know!!! Thank you so much. I’ll think like that from now on we’ll try. We are here forever so stop worrying about death and live the life we want! And don’t let anyone stop us because then we can’t! I’m thinking better a lot better, thank you keep strong always remember do something that makes you happy even if it’s the craziest thing in the world 🌎 

  • Lordnottoday
    Lordnottoday darren54615

    Posted

    It is just your anxiety.  Don't fight it.  What would you think will happen if you told your mind and body , "okay mind and body, you want to die do it now because I am sick of this s**t"  well let any nervous feeling come at you.

    Tell it to enter your F'n body.  Let it enter your feet , up to your head.  Guess what you will survive.  It will not hurt you.  It will not kill you.  It will come and leave you.  Get tough with it.  Don't follow every negative, miserable, thought you have.  Tell yourself that that thought is not true!  I will not die! 

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