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Is it really worth disclosing?

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Livelife
Livelife

I bet the title scared you?

Haha I don't mean like I'm going to not tell somebody but here is my story

Met someone who I've known for 2 years who made my heart skip a beat, everything went great until I started developing the symptoms, I asked him about it he said he never has anything and he got checked, only for me to find some hidden medication for it, this was February and after a very suicidal 2 months (I was depressed anyway this was like the icing on the cake) I got over it and moved on and frankly it never bothered me because why would it I have a boyfriend who loves me!

But recently I started speaking to a work colleague and he's always just got me he's older than me, he isn't what you'd call atttactive I'm 21 he's 31 and he's very shy and has only slept with like 3 girls and that was when he was younger

There's something about him we just click we always have and he admitted that he had feelings for me, he isn't the 'playing the field' kind of lad he's so supportive

But my thing is, my current boyfriend is being horrible to me at the moment for small reasons so I feel like, am I only feeling this lack of love for my bf because he's treating me like crap and someone is treating me good or am I really falling for someone else?

But is it worth disclosing this to the work colleague I mean I have a boyfriend at home who already has this, this work boy is amazing I really don't want to do this to him

It's so hard and for the first time since February I've hated on having herpes and be cried over it again, only because I feel like it's decided my life for me already

I'm scared to disclose I was thinking of just seeing this work colleague and saying hey look this is what I've got going on, I'm okay I'm fine it doesn't effect me but blablabla

But we work together and I know for a fact he wouldn't tell anyone but it's just the fact I'd have to see him everyday knowing

I'm so confused

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  • ashlyn26137
    ashlyn26137 Livelife

    Posted

    You said you got a boyfriend at home? I'd leave him if you like the other guy so much ask yourself this would you like it if he cheated on you if he's been talking to someone else he likes to? It sounds like you've never been cheated on before that's what it sounds like you're going to do I wouldn't want to be like all of these cheaters out there but that's just me because I've been cheated on so many times I know what it's like..

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus Livelife

    Posted

    Tough one. I'd be concerned about a colleague knowing, or worse yet, catching it from me if things were to progress. Also, is your bf the one who knew he had herpes and gave it to you?? If so, then omg, I would be so furious with him!

    • Livelife
      Livelife FelizCastus

      Posted

      Yeah exactly!!!

      I'm just going to leave it

      Well yeah I really was and sometimes I still hold blame and anger

    • mandy58079
      mandy58079 Livelife

      Posted

      I don't even know how come you're still with your bf, how can he know he has this and didn't say anything. He probably didn't tell you, so that when you get infected you'd stay with him because I mean who wants to tell someone they have Herpes. Much more than figuring out if to tell this new guy, figure out if you really want to be with your boyfriend, knowing that he consciously gave you a life long disease, he didn't even let you choose, that was very unfair to you.

      In that same light, At times the grass looks greener on the other side, nice guy knowing should only be a factor if you both decide to be a thing after you've left your bf.

    • Livelife
      Livelife mandy58079

      Posted

      Exactly my point

      It's disgusting what he did but I think the whole 'disclosure' scared him

      But that is how I feel

      I really feel sometimes I love him and when we're good we're good

      But I just am scared that I'm settling

      Before this I was such a confident head strong girl and now I'm a weak pathetic poor excuse of a person

      I just think the new guy is too good for this I don't want to even let him risk it I'm going to leave him alone

  • emma73792
    emma73792 Livelife

    Posted

    You'll feel better and prob be surprised by his good reaction. Over the 9 years I've had it I've told quite a few guys some even before first date and have in those years had two guys who didn't want too pursue dating x food luxk

  • Livelife
    Livelife

    Posted

    Just to let you all know

    I disclosed and he said 'oh thank god I thought you was going to tell me you were born a man'

  • Takenc
    Takenc Livelife

    Posted

    Wow I was in the same situation as you A month ago. A year ago I found out I had hsv2 and was also very suicidal for almost 6 months. But I am over it. Thank god, I have kids to think about because if it wasn't for them I wouldn't be here for sure 😔. But hsv is very common. 80% of people who have hsv, have no symptoms. But it's something we have to learn to live with

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