Is my husband depressed or is our marriage failing?

Hi Alison ,

pit sounds like your husband is depressed, does he work what changes in his life has been made?

my husband can be very moody, he gets depressed but won't take any medication

so I just have to put up with his moods until it's lifted.

if u can talk to him ask what's the matter ? Do you work ?  Try and find out what's 

bothering him ?  Something might be worrying him is it work , or home 

don't blame yourself I'm sure it's nothing to do with you. ! Hope you work things out.

if u can ask for both of you to see doc. Is there any health concerns , lump somewhere he found etc .good luck. X

Your husband not sleeping isn't good. Why isn't he sleeping? I know what it feels like walking on egg shells, I did that as a kid and I'm doing it again with my husband. I'm the same way I want my fun outgoing husband back. Its hard to deal with and I know you're frustrated. Is he seeing help by a doctor? Can you talk to him about his behavior or have a family member talk to him. Be safe and take care of you. Believe me I know what you are going through. Its hard but you need to figure out how much you can take. Sounds like he has bipolar to me. I'm sorry he isn't talking to nicely, I know it hurts. Hang in there. I hope things get better real soon.

Alison how are things going?

unfortunately it is his mental illness talking and not him.  Is he seeing anyone medical about this.

Richard

Well, working together isn't a good mixture because you obviously are a method for his frustration hence, the yelling etc.  That's not acceptable.  Perhaps look elsewhere for work and perhaps that could be the best thing ever happening in your marriage.  My husband was self employed for over 30 yrs and we did the "work together" thing but it didn't work out because of the exact same reasons.  I was the idiot and he was the "wealth of knowledge"...blah on that stuff.  I had more experience than he did and he knew it.  I never shoved that in his face, in fact, I just went out and applied and applied to other jobs and finally I was hired by a very good job and we at least saved our marriage.  Currently, it sux but we're still a work in progress.  As the song goes, "we're not broken, just bent".

Good luck

Frustrated