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Is there still hope?

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willow06
willow06

I contracted herpes way back in the 80's. I was a student nurse just coming up to my finals with a bright future ahead of me, the world was my oyster so to speak. I met a doctor and he gave me herpes. yes he knew he had it..

I was completely devastated and quite honestly it has ruined my life.

I don't think I have ever recovered.Unfortunately I used alcohol to try to cope with the pain and misery.I have struggled since with depression lonliness , and have made poor life choices due to low self esteem and loss of self confidence.

I still have dreams despite now being in my fifties, am I being unrealisticcry

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  • lj73
    lj73 willow06

    Posted

    You sound like a really strong person who has been through so much. Your never to old to dream big and turn your life around for the better. Coping with GH is such a massive thing. I myself have only had it a month now and feel like my life has turned upside down but I guess we have to exept it and look at life differently. I'm trying to be positve as I too have had a a small handful of bad relationships and can be often found drowning my sorrows in a bottle of wine and feeling like crap but really it gets you no where but feeling more depressed and there for brining you down that only lead to further outbreaks. 

    This site has been really helpful to me in the last few weeks, reading other peoples opinions and advice. It can be a lonely old world out there but I guess we just have to surround our selfs with the things we love doing and the people that mean the most to us. Good luck and I hope the future soon gets brighter for you 😊

  • mandyhappygolucky
    mandyhappygolucky willow06

    Posted

    Hello Willow,

                       Sorry to hear you've felt so alone with this, your definately not alone soo many of us have this and we've all had to deal with it in our own way, I delt with it by shutting myself in the house for a few years, was depressed wondered why I deserved this, it was horrible now I'm over it, moved on with my life, got a better sense of humour, don't judge people like I used to do, its honestly made my life better in a way, I pay more respect to my body and people because of this virus, I do share your pain Ive been there but there is hope and you don't need the alcohol (besides its a trigger for giving you more outbreaks) or to feel the way you do, people will accept you for who you are with or without GH, we all make bad choices/mistakes but aslong as we learn from them thats what matters so don't beat yourself up about it.

    I don't think your being unrealistic, are you a nurse? Life begins at 40 apparently so you are well within your life just begining again, take it by the b*lls.

    If you are dealing with many outbreaks back to back and its getting you down, let us know theres many people on here who can give good advice on what has worked for them.

    Keep your chin up.

    Mandy smile

  • eugene70527
    eugene70527 willow06

    Posted

    In my opinion your depression is deeper than from herpes.  Alcohol from my past experience only makes things worse! Frustration leads to depression.
    • hope4cure
      hope4cure eugene70527

      Posted

      Absolutely spot on..

      sometime alcohol sucks u deeper in depression . Self medicating is not the best way to treat urself. 

       

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