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Is this a personality disorder?

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Elephant_e
Elephant_e

Is this a personality disorder? I seem to be a very empathetic person and I do generally care about others and have helped People from depression. However sometimes especially when I'm annoyed I can turn horrible and shout verbal abuse at family members. It's like I'm kind then mean and it keeps switching but I do get upset about it afterwards but I keep doing it and know I'll do it again and am also selfish as well as selfless. It doesn't make sense pls help.

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  • vicky51471
    vicky51471 Elephant_e

    Posted

    Hi there 

    this is among other things what’s wrong with me. I am a caring person,I hate seeing people in pain.

    though I snap at the ones I love, I wish I could stop but it’s too late when I’ve said something or snapped.

    Im older now I’m trying to recognise when this happens and I try to think before I speak!!  I feel horrible terrible afterwards. My loved ones have pointed it out to me and it’s not fair on them.

     I guess we have to try to stop or recognise when we are like this.it doesn’t make sense as you've said, it’s always the ones closest to us as well.

    hope that the people around understand and try to work on it.

    good luck 

    vicky🌈

     

    • Elephant_e
      Elephant_e vicky51471

      Posted

      Thanks Vicky its really difficult I'm not even gonna lie when I'm angry I will pretty much say anything and I have made family members cry. I feel bad about it but I know I'll do it again sadly. Hope this isn't to personal but have you been diagnosed with anything?

    • vicky51471
      vicky51471 Elephant_e

      Posted

      Hi there

      i have had depression and anxiety for 14 years now I’m 40 now.

      I fly off the handle and shout snap at people! The ones that love and care for me.

      i don’t think I’ve a personality disorder I just think when I am really anxious I project it in the wrong way. I seem to be on the defensive a lot of the time.

       I’m trying my best to (calm it) to watch what I say.

       These people have done nothing to me. Like you I say it it’s too late.its been said!! Then too late !

      Dont get me wrong when I’ve been like this I think what I he he’ll is wrong with me? What was that for? There was no need I feel terrible. So at times I thought I’m two different people!, But I’m not I’m me just got to work on what I say and do. Think how would I like it I guess.

       I think if we recognise what we are doing that can only be a good thing can’t it?

       I  think before a bit more before I  answer someone.

      my mum even now says it’s not what you say it’s how you say it.

      hope you’re okay

      vicky🌈

       

    • Elephant_e
      Elephant_e vicky51471

      Posted

      That’s good I’m glad your getting better at it. I think my mood definitely effects my actions on a big scale. Sometimes if I watch a movie and there’s a character I quite like I’ll take traits of there personality and use them even if that characters a bit of a scumbag.
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