Is this perimenopause?? I feel I am going crazy at times. 😢😩

Hiya This sounds like classic peri to me love. I have a Mirena too and have all the things you say too. I get sad as I have completely lost the real me at times and even when I think that I could cry. I have always been so upbeat but sometimes this jst drags me down so much I just wanna sit and cry.. I can be perfectly fine and then all of a sudden I get a whoosh and need to let out the tears.

So very draining and it make sme feel 100 years old. I want the real me back.. Take care love this forum is great for genuine like minded support though so keep checking in xxxx

UPDATE

Had the worse OB/GYN visit EVER!

I went to see a new OB/GYN yesterday (mine moved out of the area) to get Mirena IUD consultation and possibly get it removed. In another post I mentioned many of the symptoms that has led me to believe that I am at the beginning stages of perimenopause. I also inquired of that to the OB/GYN and the whole visit was a joke! When she heard all my symptoms, she made me feel like I was being dramatic and would say things like "I'm not a specialist in Psychiatry and I dont treat anxiety and depression!" She would also say things like, "In my 16 years of experience, Ive never had any woman come in and complain about any of the symptoms you have and think its the Mirena." If you go to the Mirena website and look at ALL the possible side effects, you will see mood changes and depression! She was so defensive of this type of birth control, i was like what is going on with the lady?? Then on top of that, when I would ask her a question, she would say "I don't know" alot! I'm just sitting there in her office in tears, thinking to myself "ok, if you have 16 years of experience, shouldn't you be able to answer my questions??" I then told her that I am NOW even more confused because I didn't get any answers and that I'll talk to my husband and think about it before I remove it. She then said if I didn't want a birth control with hormones, I could get the Paragard and gave me a brochure. She didn't care that I was in tears not even handing me a tissue. She definitely showed she didn't care, had no empathy, didn't listen to my needs, and was very cold and heartless. Then later, I found out from my husband (who was waiting for me in the waiting area) that he saw many brochures on the table about the practice and that they highly supported the Mirena. So this OB/ GYN apparently endorses and most likely gets a financial cut to recommend this type of birth control to women. So it made total sense as to why she acted the way she did! She must have gotten her feelings hurt and defended the Mirena. It makes me so sick that Dr's put their pay first BEFORE the needs of their patients.

When I got home later I looked up info on women who had their Mirena removed and about 95% of the posts I read, these women were so much happier after they had it taken out. Many of them complained that they suffered from anxiety and depression like symptoms after they had the Mirena put in (even months or years after). I've had mine just over one year and I am having it removed for sure, just not with that worthless OB/GYN I saw. Thankfully I found out that my Primary care physician or GP does women wellness care and can remove my Mirena. I have an appointment with her this Monday and will finally be rid of this IUD. Doing this will help me to determine if it is the Mirena that has caused me to feel my perimenopause symptoms or not. Process of elimination.I'll keep you posted. Anyone else have a similar experience?

First let's start with a big "I am so sorry you had to experience that."  Physicians can be so heartless.  It's almost as though you have to handle your own health care these days, and just hope you can find someone to help.  

I think you probably have your own answer, about removing the Mirena.  Because the only way you will know the answer on how you feel, is to have it taken out and give yourself some time to adjust.  (And please don't forget the adjustment part.)

AND now you know WHO NOT TO SEE, and apparently it's a female OB/GYN.

 

Hi there, I'm 42 and having almost the same symptoms, also without the hot flashes (yet!), and like you I am convinced this must be the start of perimenopause because it feels exactly like out of control crazy hormones!!! Have you also noticed any changes in your cycle as well - that's also a good indicator, I think (though am also new to this) I saw my gynae last year about worsening ovulation pain and had a hysteroscopy to rule out anything sinister going on and she recommended the Mirena, but since the hysteroscopy showed no actual probems (a few small fibroids only) I decided to avoid it for now...

I could have written most of your post, it's nice to be able to come here and post to other women who know how you feel. I'm 50 now so I'm in the peri stage that most doctors would agree on but there are other women who're a similar age to you and one day, the medical field will eventually acknowledge that the menopause can start at younger ages. 

The constipation gets me down, in fact most of the symptoms do and boy..sometimes just getting up from sitting does feel like I've been working out at the gym but I've not been exerting myself. I am over weight which doesn't help but to ache like that isn't pleasant no matter what your size is. The Mirena coil I have has thankfully stopped my periods, apart from a few times where there is a little bleeding so it's doing it's job but it doesn't stop the PMS and other symptoms and yes you do sometimes feel like you're going mad.

I hope you get this sorted and if a second opinion is what you need, then get one when you can. All the best.

***2ND UPDATE***

Hello Ladies:

I wanted to give you all an update with what's going on since I last posted this post and another one titled - Had the Worse OB/GYN Visit EVER! -

I had my Mirena IUD taken out February 22 (almost 3 weeks ago) & I couldn't be happier. I am 99 percent confident this was the culprit of most of my symptoms. As you may already read before in my original posts, I was having symptoms such as mood changes like anxiety, depression, and crying spells (for NO reason).I felt tired all the time, having no energy, very fatigue, had brain fog, memory problems at times, muscle aches, pains, tension, soreness (like after working out), headaches, and constipation. I also had very little of a sex drive. My anxiety was giving me such a hard time that I had to start taking medication. ALL of this nonsense led me to start seeking therapy, counseling, going to many specialists such as a Psychiatrist and Psychologist and even being on a 3 month leave of absence away from work because my emotions were totally out of control! Now, I'm not saying that the Mirena IUD is a bad form of birth control as it affects every woman differently. It just didn't work for me and obviously MY body couldn't handle a synthetic hormone. So something told me over and over again, just to remove it. At least I would know if it truly was the culprit of my symptoms and I could rule it out if it wasn't. I did a ton of research on the IUD and found out MANY women WERE having many of the same symptoms as me when they had the IUD in them but once they got it removed, it's like their body and mind did a 180. Well, thankfully, I'm glad to report that since I had it removed, my crying spells and anxiety levels have nearly ceased. I do still feel tired at times, but not an extreme fatigue like before. My sex drive like almost instantly came back right away. I do still have trouble remembering something, but it's not the same feeling as before and my brain fog is gone. I still get occasional muscle aches, tension, headaches, and constipation but this could be from the medication I'm on. For awhile I thought I might have been perimenopausal but had the Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) blood test done and it came out to be 9.6 which I read is on the high end of normal and low end of peri. So I may still be facing a more full blown peri here soon. Time will tell.