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Has anyone felt extremely isolated? Its been six years since my breakdown and I've been on meds. I also binge eat when I'm bored. I used to be so happy and confident at it seems as though a part of me has died. I have about 3 friends but not thick friendships. I feel so hurt and alone at times. I get jealous of my daughter wanting to spend time with her friends and no time with me. She is 17.
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ally08356 mel123456
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Hi Mel
Its common to feel isolated because of mental health issues. My big crash and burn was about 8 years ago. Since then, there have been times when the isolation has been almost paralysing.
I moved states a couple of years ago. It took me ages to make new friends. I joined a knitting circle and although I have fun when I am with them, there is a lot I never share. That is both a blessing and a curse. Saves over-sharing, but can feel very disingenuous. However it helps a lot to be with them because it reminds me I am 'normal', am nice, can have fun and I forget the crappy side of life.
I don't want to give you naff sounding advice, but making the effort to join in does help. But it is effort and will take time to pay off for you. It is also trial and error. When you feel down / depressed, it is so hard to find energy to do anything, don't choose an activity that will be setting you up for a fall eg don't decide to embroider an elaborate cloth if you haven't picked up a needle and thread before ?. I picked knitting because I had some basic skill and thats all I needed to make squares for blankets for homeless people.
With your daughter, I understand that too. Am kind of the same with my boys. One son is travelling at the moment and a little part of me is soooo jealous because he didn't include me. But I have to remind myself every day they need to find their way in the world.
Hang in there. Good karma vibes coming your way.
Ally
Loony ally08356
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I'm in the same boat. I hate being around people and prefer to never leave the house. The first medication I was prescribed for my mental health issues was awful. I would sleep 12-14 hours a day and get up and doing anything was a struggle. I gained 40lbs in 6 months, not from over eating necessarily but as a major side effect of the meds. I felt awful about myself and was so angry about being bipolar and having borderline personality disorder so that made everything worse. I literally have no friends now because friends want something I don't have to give or have no patience to tolerate them. I know it is recommended to interact with people to help with the disorders but I pretty much refuse. It's too much effort. I do get lonely occasionally but I also always have a dialogue going on in my mind constantly. It feels like I have the devil on one shoulder and an angel on my right shoulder. They are constantly arguing about what is a good idea and what is a bad idea. I do sometimes wish I had someone to walk with, that doesn't want a lot from me but will be there when I need them. But I know that is unfair to that person. Double edged sword.