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It's not getting easier, is it time to delete his number?

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greg11776
greg11776

So, nearly 8 weeks ago a guy I was with asked me to give him space as he needed to focus on recovery, after a 6 week stint for drugs and alcohol in residential rehab.

Ive been looking after myself, learning about codependency and trying to detach. Last thing I have now is his number. He said he would be in touch in future when doing amends in as steps.

Should I delete? Am I going to be a reminder of his past now, and he's not going to return, just said that to me? Combine this with fact he wasn't open about his sexuality to anyone either, am I now a reminder about that too.

My heart is broken, but I don't know should I reach out one last time or delete his number?

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  • HumptyDumpty43
    HumptyDumpty43 greg11776

    Posted

    Hi Greg,

    Why don't you send him a text to see how he's getting on - nothing heavy just a text so he knows that you are thinking of him. I know that dealing with rehab and standing on your own two feet can be very difficult and maybe he is concentrating on himself and his recovery.

    Don't delete his number yet - see if he replies.

    All the best

    Humpty xxx

    • greg11776
      greg11776 HumptyDumpty43

      Posted

      You reckon I should? Even though he said he needs to cut contact for his recovery?
  • HumptyDumpty43
    HumptyDumpty43 greg11776

    Posted

    I can't definitely advise you as I don't know the history of your relationship as you've said that 'he wanted space' in your post.  If he has said that he wants to cut contact then I think you need to do just that.  I would probably still send him a 'light' text though, just to ask how he's getting on and see if he replies but prepare yourself if he doesn't. Sorry Greg you are in a tough 'should I' 'shouldn't I' situation.  

    All the best

    Humpty xxx

  • Nat666
    Nat666 greg11776

    Posted

    I would agree with the others Greg and just send a light text to him just to see how he's doing .If you don't get any response try and be strong and then delete his number ..Its a tough one but to you would then have made the first steps of moving on.

  • cm51881
    cm51881 greg11776

    Posted

    I went through the same thing.  My advise is to move on.  Tough Love.
    • greg11776
      greg11776 cm51881

      Posted

      Ok but before I move on, can I let him know how I've been impacted by it all? What's your experience been?

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