Ive been depressed about this for 6 months feel frozen and sad
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I was diagnosed with HSV1 6 months ago and have been in a major depression that I cant get out of. I have tried counselling, am on medication, yet I have cut myself off from people. I feel so ugly and worthless. Worse thing is I have a child and it has affected my relationship whith him and his friendships as I cant face anyone. I feel it has aged me so much and I just cant get out of this. I dont even feel like me anymore. Did anyone overcome this feeling of shame, worthlessness and self loathing?
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TLAN mary43533
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I've not slept properly, lost 3 stone. Everything you've said I feel the same. Can't believe there isn't a cure for this, I mean if it was anything else we'd have taken meds and be over it now. This thing I'm waiting all the time to see if anything is starting. Feel sick and it's constantly on my mind. Not had any further outbreak but having nerve pulsing feelings all the time so feel like something is about to happen.
How about you? Anything else happened?
My results went to my GP and she has been useless. I don't want to live like this and can't see my life ever being as it was.
kevin2016 mary43533
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herpesguy mary43533
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I know what you are going through, seriously. I was with the same person for 25 years. We divorced and the VERY FIRST PERSON I WAS WITH AFTER GAVE ME GENTIAL HERPES! How is that for bad luck?? Anyway, it took a little while but I put the whole thing in perspective:
1) It does not kill you
2) It does not debilitate you
3) It does nto shorten your life span or make you invalid or an idiot
4) You can still kiss your kids and hug them
This virus is a nuisance. That is all. In the grand scheme of things, this is so minor, it is almost not worth worrying about. We just need to be good, responsible people. Tell your partners. Don't have sex duing an outbreak (you won't want to anyway because of the pain that would cause). Take care of yourself. A weird thing is - I am healthier now than before I got herpes because I am taking better care of myself. Being healthy helps keep your immune system strong and prevent outbreaks. So I will probably actually live longer because of herpes. I eat better, drink less and get more sleep. I feel great.
Oh, and my partner? She has been TOTALLY supportive. She says "you are still the same guy I love - so you have a virus that half the world has."
Trust me - this is really no big deal. The worst part is in your head. Control your mind and you will control this condition. It's really that simple.
My best of luck to you!
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I think being single is the hardest part
herpesguy mary43533
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I do realise I am very lucky... and I am very thankful. But the first part of attracting someone is being attractive yourself. Be confident and proud of who you are. That is sexy. If you feel like you are dirty and worthless, that's how people will treat you. Tell yourself every day that you are strong and beautiful and that you have a lot to offer someone. Your mind will slowly change and you will become those things because you will act that way. And trust me... people will notice and want to be with you. No one wants to be with someone who is miserable and in self-pity all the time. You can do it - I know you can. Decide right now to change your mind. Just try it. What do you have to lose?
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