Jealousy & overbearing in relationship and social anxiety - why and how can I stop I
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I have suffered all of my adult life with jealousy and being overbearing in relationships. This has really come to the fore in a new relationship and is really getting to me. I have met my perfect partner who is truly amazing. I know that she loves me the same and we are so good together. I trust her completely yet I get overtaken by these irrational fears of me not being good enough for her and her finding someone else. My relationship with her has also made me face my fear in social situations. I have very few friends and cannot socialise with people I dont know well. Recently I had to leave a party as I became completely overwhelmed with fear and panic. I clearly have loself esteem but dont know why? Im good at my job, I'm a pretty decent looking guy and I had a great childhood. I'm going to seek professional help but need advice on how I can help myself too.
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keepgoing reh6489
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Be happy that you've recognised your problem and are on the right track to getting help and getting over this. You can get better
evon121 reh6489
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niccik reh6489
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I had CBT therapy which was great, although i didnt quite click with my therapist therefore dont feel i got enough out of it. CBT is excellent thuogh as it trains you into thinking differently and helps you manage your irrational thoughts. I think this would be great for you although there is always quite a long waiting list. I had to wait 6 years. Im sure it would be quicker for you though as they accidentally kicked me off the waiting list at one point so had to start again. In teh mean time there are lots of CBT self help guides online. I have the ones my therapist gave me. CBT is a lot to do with homework. It is vital to practice what you learn in CBT at home to get the most out of it. Self help guides could get you started on your own and help change and manage your intrusive thoughts. I will send you alink to my CBT help guides later. CBT combined with Medication (medication will help you become more stable before therapy, as CBT makes you face your issues head on, so you have to be in the best frame of mind to begin with in order to gain as much as possible from the therapy) is the best combination...
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niccik reh6489
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