Jean

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Hi. I Need answers. please help me understand because i am feeling so horrible. i have had the same male partner for 5 years and never used condoms. i tested positive for hsv2 through blood work from my obgyn. i went in for an anual exam and was tested cor stds and the hsv2 came back with antibodies found in me. i have never had any symptoms ever. no rash no sore no bumps no anything. i am a 34 year old woman who has been having sex since i was 16. the doctor dis not give me any levels just told me negative for hsv1 and positive for hsv2 antibodies detected. please help me. i retested at any lab test now and am waiting for results to come back now. my love of my life might leave me if i have this bc its too hard to deal with knowing that i might pass it to him. can he have it and not show on blood work? could my blood results be wrong? i just dont understand how this is showing up like this and again no symptoms never.i dont want him to text positive but is there a chance his results are wrong? and mine are wrong too?

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    False positives for HSV2 are almost impossible. Yes, you can have it with no symptoms.

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    first of all. educate yourself on herpes. everyone has it. second if he is really the love of your life he wont leave you for something like this. my herpes popped out of nowhere and my bf didnt leave me.

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      even though i have never had an outbreak ever and we have unprotected sex all the time he still says hes afraid he could possibly get it from me and doesnt want to put himself through the pain it may cause. i understand how he feels, but i am so scared he is going to leave if the 2nd test i took comes back positive. i know how much he loves me i really do. but this is so hard to have to deal with. knowing that there is a possibility i could pass it to him scares him. i feel so lost. i dont want to not have him. he is everything i have ever wanted and the 5 years we have been together have been the best of my life. i dont know what to do or say to make him stay and get through this with me. he STAYED up all night long last night bc he was afraid of having to say goodbye to me and all he can think about is my results. i dont know what to do my heart hurts so bad. i never knew this

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      even though i have never had an outbreak ever and we have unprotected sex all the time he still says hes afraid he could possibly get it from me and doesnt want to put himself through the pain it may cause. i understand how he feels, but i am so scared he is going to leave if the 2nd test i took comes back positive. i know how much he loves me i really do. but this is so hard to have to deal with. knowing that there is a possibility i could pass it to him scares him. i feel so lost. i dont want to not have him. he is everything i have ever wanted and the 5 years we have been together have been the best of my life. i dont know what to do or say to make him stay and get through this with me. he STAYED up all night long last night bc he was afraid of having to say goodbye to me and all he can think about is my results. i dont know what to do my heart hurts so bad. i never knew this

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      so most people have been "exposed " to herpes and thus have antibodies for it regardless. If you have never had symptoms you are likely fine. if he is willing to throw away a 5 year relationship over essentially nothing then he really doesn't love you. And if you do have it you have likely already given it to him in the amount of time you have been together sexually. Since neither of you have ever shown symptoms you honestly don't need to worry about it.

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      if he tested negative does that mean he could still end up with it at a later date? i feel so bad. i would never hurt him hes so good to me. i just dont understand how or why this happened. doesnt having a high antibody count 13.5 mean i must have had it for years and just never known

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      sara he tested negative and now hes afraid to have sex with me. hes afraid of me giving him head. he doesnt know what to do. we live together and we both have kids that arent eachothers but we have never acted like they werent. we have a beautiful relationship and now this is happening. what do i say to make him not afraid what do i do to not be afraid. im just as scared to have sex. i dont want to give it to him. i cant help but think about the thousands of times we have made love without knowing i have this and he doesnt have it. how do i ask him to continue to love me and be here? how do we make love now knowing there is a posibility i could give it to him or i did give it to him its just not showing up. i need all of the facts about this. im lost. im so lost.

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      When you told him how did he react? he has been up for a week straight he cant sleep. he is going through it bad due to me telling him this. He is still talking to me and being very nice and helping out with the normal things we have to do in or life, but i can tell he is hurting. I can tell he is afraid that i will pass this to him. I just dont know what to say or what to do to give himpeace. i am heartbroken that this has happened in our relationship and watching him makes me feel even worse. this has hurt me so bad knowing i have this and never knew about it.

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    Please don’t worry! If he is willing to give all your time together for hsv then I’d get rid of him!!

    Who’s to say you didn’t get it from him! Soooo many people haven herpes and never have any symptoms! You may never have any symptoms still!

    But if you did honestly it’s not the end of the world, it’s an inconvenience at best!

    If you had a oral cold sore would he leave you?

    There is very little difference between HSV1 and HSV2 and they both effect both places. There is no worse to have! But if you had it orally I doubt he’d care.

    Your number one in all this don’t let this bring you down.

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      he tested negative. im so scared. this isnt my fault and i just do t understand why. my life is being disrupted like this. having to tell him was so hard the pain in his eyes made me feel worthless. then what if i gave it to him but it isnt showing? or what if i didnt give it to him bc i never had out breaks? do you never really know. how am i positive and never symptoms. why is this world so evil? why is pain to hard to deal with. why??? this hurts so much

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      There is so many worse things that can happen to you then testing positive with hsv.

      I under stand how hard it is. Honestly.

      My outbreak initially was brutal and I have to take suppression therapy. So I would actually consider you lucky! Considering he tested negative and you are together if it’s a true positive you probably have it a while, even before him. Your viral shedding is probably very very low and your body probably had it under control.

      If he is willing to leave you over this, think what he would do if it was something more serious, like cancer, like a disfigurement? Because so many people have hsv if he’s been with more then 8 women you aren’t the only one with hsv he has come across!

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      he tested negative and now hes afraid to have sex with me. hes afraid of me giving him head. he doesnt know what to do. we live together and we both have kids that arent eachothers but we have never acted like they werent. we have a beautiful relationship and now this is happening. what do i say to make him not afraid what do i do to not be afraid. im just as scared to have sex. i dont want to give it to him. i cant help but think about the thousands of times we have made love without knowing i have this and he doesnt have it. how do i ask him to continue to love me and be here? how do we make love now knowing there is a posibility i could give it to him or i did give it to him its just not showing up. i need all of the facts about this. im lost. im so lost.

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      Don’t try make him do anything! You can’t force someone to love you! 5 years is a long time but why should you feel guilty about something you didn’t even know you had?

      You didn’t give it to him in 5 years I doubt your going to give it to him now!

      Hsv2 rarely effects the lips so there should be no problem with oral!

      You need to get educated on it and so does he! I think you need to sit down and have a chat about your relationship because if I were you I’d of walked out already!

      www.herpes.org

      Its not as easy to transmit as google does say.

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      I just dont know how to feel i have been crying everyday since finding out. He hasnt selpt in a week but a few hours. He is scared and doesnt know what to do. He is a very mental person so he cant stop thinking about it. I dont know what to say or what to do. Its painful watching him being depressed. He is still with me at this moment and we still laugh and talk and he still is doing his part around the house with me and the kids but i know him and this hurts him. what do i do? how can i give him peace of mind. I know this is hard its so hard for me as well. I never knew and then to be told this it hurts. It hurt so bad to have to go home and tell him, but i had to i couldnt ever keep this from him. i dont want to pass it to him. the doctor says i dont have an active infection and its something i have had for years. she said i will probably never get an outbreak and its ok to still have sex. sex is not on my mind at all, but thats something you share thats special with the person you love. Im afraid i have ruined evrything.

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    I feel so bad. He has been up for a week straight he cant sleep. I have watched both of us fall into a depressed state of mind. I dont know what to say to him what not to say. He is still home with me, still talkto to me kisses me but he cant wrap his mind around knowing that he could possibly get this from me. I understand how hes feeling bc i dont want to ever pass it to him either. I just dont want this to end our life together. we are honestly best friends and have a wonderful relationship, but this one has hurt him really bad. he doesnt want to leave i know that and i know how much he loves me, but he is scared he might get it. what do i say what do i do? im scared too but after speaking with the doctor i feel just a little bit better. I dont have symptoms so its likely i wont pass it to him she advised. I am hearbroken right now.

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