Job interviews when you have anxiety

Hi Kacey,

I'm real sorry to hear about your mom.

No no u must go to docs. In UK if you were presenting a doc with anxiety they would 100% help you.

They'd prob ask u how long you have been experiencing it and offer u anxiety meds, maybe anti depressants cos these also work on anxiety.

I totally empathise with u. The thought of a job interview scared me silly. Last one I had was 2002.

I was also socially awkward around most people even friends for goodness sake.

Listen. The first thing you need to believe about yourself is that even though u may feel socially awkward, ur probably not as socially awkward as u think u are to others. And that's what feeds this idea. The notion that you don't want others to see how awkward you feel because ur embarrassed and ur nervous. Yes it's crippling and ur hanging on their every word and the way they say it.

Everyone in the world suffers anxiety but some of us hold onto this longer in our lives and that's when it becomes crippling. Hence you don't like to be sociable to strangers in a diner because again u get no value or enjoyment from it.

Those people who are confident around others have learnt probably very early on that people's opinions of each other are no threat because their parents showed no sign of stress in conversation.

You see we learn so much so early on from our parents and older siblings.

Anyway back to your interview technique. Unfortunately the only way to grow and get better in interviews is to attend more of them. Do ur first one, it's OK to pause before u answer, if you don't get it learn from it and when you get home write down what u could have done better on. Remember people are unsuccessful all the time in interviews. U may have 5 unsuccessful interviews and that's ok. Just make sure your trying to improve on one or two things each time. Also don't be afraid to ask why u didn't get the job or if you could have answered differently. Most employers will gladly tell you. And then thats knowledge for your next interview.

There is something over here called rescue remedy which u can drop onto ur tongue. It's a herbal remedy which is supposed to calm u down.

My gosh I'm sorry for the essay. I just really wanna help if I can. Therapy is also a route to helping cos it sounds like you had anxiety a while. I go to a group therapy called COMPASSION FOCUS THERAPY.

I really wish you well. You've had a rough couple of months.

Feel free to msge if u want any more help. 😃

I would suggest bachs rescue remedy. my love, you can get it from a supermarket, health store or chemist you can either have it in drop form or spray and use it as many times as you want in the day. wear something red even if its a ribbon attached to your underwear  good luck with your interviews my lovely and finding a job 

Hi Kacey. I understand your problem. To be honest, not only you, almost everyone finds job interviews anxiety-provoking to an extent. So get started on creating the career you deserve today with the right approach to job interviews. Here are a few basic tips that can help you feel less anxious about job interviews:

1. Be calm and confident

2. Be certain to have the right attitude

3. Be careful not to read too far into things

All the best

Hi, You say you left your last job because of anxiety, Mmmm. well generally humans can only deal with so much stress in their lives and it sounds like you were going through a fairly horrible time and are still having to adapt to a different life. I don't think most people would find what happened to you easy to deal with, but you seem to be running yourself down.

I agree with the others that everyone gets anxious at interviews and everyone finds starting new jobs stressful but I would advise against drugs, they effect your performance. Some ideas that can help, it can be hard to get a job at times and this may have nothing to do with your interview but people often see not getting a job as a personal failure. While interviews might seem all very structured and impersonal, the reality is that basically they are deciding if they like you. Don't think about the interview as all about the job, think about it as making yourself likable, often interviewers can feel uncomfortable, your job is to make it easier for them. Don't ignore your anxiety, use it at the start of the interview apologise and say you feel nervous, you can tell them that really this is your first formal interview. When they ask about your previous job don't talk about your anxiety like a medical diagnosis,  I would explain about your mother needing more care and working as well it all became to much. When you tell them these things it makes it easier for them and generally people do try to be nice if possible, your are indirectly asking for help as well as giving them useful info, they will respond to that. Try not to give one word answers and if your not sure what they are asking ask them to explain it, if you can think of it like a conversation, try to smile when appropriate and look at them, especially the one asking the question. These are all about helping them and being friendly. Before going find out about the place and any policies they have available, you can tell them youve done that, it shows interest and any questions about "what would you do if" if your unsure the safe response is basically to ask your manager or tell your manager.

Think about it like a campaign and if you don't get a job get feedback about how your interview went, remember an interview can go well but other things effect their decision, if your interview goes well, you will get a job at some point.

Hope this helps.