Just been tested....

Thank you so much for replying! I've read a lot of conflicting info online so I wasn't sure how quickly people's symptoms showed up, they always seem to mention how long it could take for them to appear. I suppose it is just a waiting game to get the positive results back now then but I just knew straight away what it was I just feel like in this day and age anybody I'll meet will think I am digusting now. I daren't even speak to any of my friends in case they tell anybody so I've come on here. I'm so scared to meet somebody in the future because I will have to mention it to them  how do you go about telling somebody you meet? And being young, not that I planned on sleeping with loads of people before this, I feel like I'm restricted now to what I can and can't do, especially after reading that it can still be spread using condoms too  Just being curious... What have you found most difficult since being diagnosed?

It has made me feel a bit better knowing that there are still good people out there who do accept it  

Also do you have any recommendations to help the sores heal please? I've been given aciclovir and numbing cream but it's still really painful  x

I wasn't someone who slept around casually really, but I felt the same way you did. I suddenly felt that now the option had been robbed from me. I wasn't using that option before that night, but at least it was there if I ever decided and now I will never be able to do that. There are websites that you can meet others w it and who are open to casual encounters. You'd be surprised at the number of guys that will sleep w you anyway, knowing you have it.

I knew straight away what it was too. Womens intuition.. I think you are good not to tell your friends, because the maturity level is just not there yet, to handle that kind of news yet.

What I've found most difficult since being diagnosed is probably the fear of rejection, that I've not even experienced yet. I told an old flame I ran into and I broke down crying (things to not do..lol) and he wasn't phased by it, but I just didn't want to put him at risk, especially because I could not see us as forever or long term. We were just too voalitle w one another.

I also had a severe and horrendous reaction to herpes. The nerve pain was really bad the first month and I had to take nerve pain meds. Those had bad side effects too.

Soaking in Epsom salt baths as much as possible helps sooth it. I personally feel Vaseline applied helps w reducing friction and providing a protection from when using the bathroom and won't burn. 800mlgs of motrin every 4hrs. Cold packs wrapped in paper towels stuffed between your legs. Take very high doses of zinc, vitamin c and Bs and a probiotic w live culture. Gotta boost your immune system. Your first ob is the worst and you gotta just ride it out.. I hate saying that, but there's just not a lot of things that can help take all the pain away, other than being put in a medically induced coma till it's over! Lol...

I won't lie to you, there are going to be ignorant and misinformed people. Be prepared to hear herpes jokes.. I went to my first big public putting a month after I got it and had to heat my first herpes joke. You just laugh or off and change the subject. It is going to make you feel bad when you hear it in movies too, so be prepared for that. As time goes on though, this won't bother you as much and you will be desensitized to it. I'm so sorry doll you're going through this alone... I had friends I told. Hang in there.. You'll be OK... You can private message me anytime you need.

Thank you so much for the info it really has helped! I just got the test results back today and I have been diagnosed with type 2 and thrush... so that explains the different symptoms. It's not really a shock but it still hasn't properly sunk in yet  I've told my best friend now who I've known since I was younger so thankfully I have a shoulder to cry on but she agreed she has no idea about it. It's quite shocking how little information people know about it and like you say, how misinformed they are. My doctor today was absolutely useless and gave me creams and more tablets and there I was out of the door so I'm having to go online to find out everything now.

Have you found that you've had to change your lifestyle like eating healthier, exercising etc. to prevent outbreaks? Or taking vitamin pills?  My outbreak has mainly cleared up but I'm finding that if I shave it causes sores I'm also getting the odd shooting pain or numbness down my legs, is this a symptom too? 

I am so scared of the rejection, I feel like I've just lost all my freedom to explore now like you say. I suppose I will just have to deal with the situations when I'm faced with them but it's sooo good to hear from somebody who has it already and has had these situations so it'll help me prepare myself for them x

Yes, that is neuropathy.. Do not let a doctor tell you that is not a symptom of herpes, because it is. There arw plenty of people I've spoken to w it. That will start to subside over time and may flare back up when a breakout is coming back on.

I found drinking a lot of liquor sugary drinks and staying out till the wee hrs have triggered obs for me and my cycle triggers them.

Above your most recent post, I provided a list of things I had to start taking, which took away for the most part, my daily nerve sensations.

Girl, it is entirely too soon for you to be shaving! You better knock that off before you spread it! I did not shave for about 3 months down there, until things settled down. In doing that, I didn't experience any obs. I do not shave if I have obs either.

I can tell you are very young. I think you need to google H opportunity and create an account on this social community for those of us w H. It has wonderful education that is of the latest info, has disclosure pamphlets you can down load and print out, along w transmission stats, based on protection you are using, etc. It is set up to be a great support community, w categories regarding success stories, disclosure stories, my stories for people posting their own personal story. They have moderators on there that have herpes and no all about heroes and respond to all posts. I think it would be great for you to get the support you need. Very positive vibe.