Just been tested....
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Sooo I slept with a guy I met on holiday 2 weeks ago (drunken one night stand, shameful! With him being the third person I have slept with) and the last time I'd slept with someone was under a year ago. Within a week I started to develop the symptoms such as pain when weeing and then within 10 days the sores down below started to appear, has anybody else had the first outbreak this quick? Also I now have 1 sore on my bum cheek and 1 on my foot, is this normal? Today I went to the clinic and they did the swab test from the sores and nothing showed up in the lab (they seem to be going down already), has this happened to anyone before but still tested positive?? I've had a full screening including blood tests and have been told to go back in 2 weeks, but I was just wondering if anybody has been in the same position? In other words, I'm bricking it! I'm a 20 year old female and I've just started to get my confidence back with the opposite sex again as I had a bad break up with my ex just over a year ago and now I potentionally have this, if I do test positive how do people deal with the diagnosis?
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feelbroken jess111
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I got in to see the gyno w in a day of ulceration, so my swab results were positive and blood test negative, as it was a new infection and I'd not built antibodies to it yet..
Swabs have a high false negative rate due to the small window they have to culture.
I know it's hard sweetie.. I went two yrs w out sex and had felt ready and confident about dating again and that happened to me. Very upsetting, but you learn to accept it, because you have to accept it. It will just make your life harder if you don't learn to accept it. It doesn't feel like it now, but you'll go back to your daily life like it never happened. I have 5 gfs who have married w being positive and one who is in a long term relationship. We are all in our early 30s. This won't be the end of the world, I promise.
jess111 feelbroken
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It has made me feel a bit better knowing that there are still good people out there who do accept it
Also do you have any recommendations to help the sores heal please? I've been given aciclovir and numbing cream but it's still really painful
x
feelbroken jess111
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I knew straight away what it was too. Womens intuition.. I think you are good not to tell your friends, because the maturity level is just not there yet, to handle that kind of news yet.
What I've found most difficult since being diagnosed is probably the fear of rejection, that I've not even experienced yet. I told an old flame I ran into and I broke down crying (things to not do..lol) and he wasn't phased by it, but I just didn't want to put him at risk, especially because I could not see us as forever or long term. We were just too voalitle w one another.
I also had a severe and horrendous reaction to herpes. The nerve pain was really bad the first month and I had to take nerve pain meds. Those had bad side effects too.
Soaking in Epsom salt baths as much as possible helps sooth it. I personally feel Vaseline applied helps w reducing friction and providing a protection from when using the bathroom and won't burn. 800mlgs of motrin every 4hrs. Cold packs wrapped in paper towels stuffed between your legs. Take very high doses of zinc, vitamin c and Bs and a probiotic w live culture. Gotta boost your immune system. Your first ob is the worst and you gotta just ride it out.. I hate saying that, but there's just not a lot of things that can help take all the pain away, other than being put in a medically induced coma till it's over! Lol...
I won't lie to you, there are going to be ignorant and misinformed people. Be prepared to hear herpes jokes.. I went to my first big public putting a month after I got it and had to heat my first herpes joke. You just laugh or off and change the subject. It is going to make you feel bad when you hear it in movies too, so be prepared for that. As time goes on though, this won't bother you as much and you will be desensitized to it. I'm so sorry doll you're going through this alone... I had friends I told. Hang in there.. You'll be OK... You can private message me anytime you need.
jess111 feelbroken
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Have you found that you've had to change your lifestyle like eating healthier, exercising etc. to prevent outbreaks? Or taking vitamin pills? My outbreak has mainly cleared up but I'm finding that if I shave it causes sores
I'm also getting the odd shooting pain or numbness down my legs, is this a symptom too?
I am so scared of the rejection, I feel like I've just lost all my freedom to explore now like you say. I suppose I will just have to deal with the situations when I'm faced with them but it's sooo good to hear from somebody who has it already and has had these situations so it'll help me prepare myself for them x
feelbroken jess111
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I found drinking a lot of liquor sugary drinks and staying out till the wee hrs have triggered obs for me and my cycle triggers them.
Above your most recent post, I provided a list of things I had to start taking, which took away for the most part, my daily nerve sensations.
Girl, it is entirely too soon for you to be shaving! You better knock that off before you spread it! I did not shave for about 3 months down there, until things settled down. In doing that, I didn't experience any obs. I do not shave if I have obs either.
I can tell you are very young. I think you need to google H opportunity and create an account on this social community for those of us w H. It has wonderful education that is of the latest info, has disclosure pamphlets you can down load and print out, along w transmission stats, based on protection you are using, etc. It is set up to be a great support community, w categories regarding success stories, disclosure stories, my stories for people posting their own personal story. They have moderators on there that have herpes and no all about heroes and respond to all posts. I think it would be great for you to get the support you need. Very positive vibe.