Just diagnosed 10 days back, feeling depressed and totally in dark

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I am a 27 year old male, just diagnosed with GH, I just feel herpes is terrible in itself and GH is way more complicated than OH even if they are the same virus on different location. I have gone through 100 of websites, done so much of reasearch its really not helping me out. The person with whom i got herpes she didnt had any previous symptoms and she is quite okay about it. I just feel depressed, shattered. I feel as if i have been punished for my sins, this disease is more psychological than physical. I regret everyday of my life taking things so carelessly, not wearing a condom. 

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  • Posted

    Herpes is indeed very psychological, thanks to the huge social stigma attached to it since the 80s. Do you have Type 1 or 2?
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    Hi alexs55_

    I was told through a visual examination that it looks like I have the oral version to on my genital area, I was and still in a way am devastated, however even without penetrative sex like oral sex alone can pass the virus on it really can happen to anyone. I agree though that having in the genital area is so much more challenging emotionally, I have been crying every day with physical pain and that's before I get emotional about the whole experience in general. Ive been on medication for 4 days now, the wounds are healing and I'm starting to feel better. My advise is take as much time out to yourself now, you don't need to tell anyone if you don't want to or atleast until you are feeling better in yourself. The only people I will tell are future partners. The good thing about oral herpes on the genitles is that it is less likely to reoccurring and is more manageable if it ever does. This forum as helped me so much over the past few days, we are not alone.

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    I'm going to see my doctor tomorrow but I am pretty sure I have it and I'm absolutely terrified, disgusted, sick, and overwhelmed here myself. What a terrifying thing to happen. I'm so glad I found this site tho. I haven't talked to anyone about it yet so it's definitely lonesome and scary in my head right now. Totally sucks. I'm in shock and everything seems surreal.
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      Hi Topp,

      I understand how you feel. Please be compassionate with yourself as you really have done nothing wrong, anyone who is sexually active (which is a lot of people by the way) can contract it. If its type one it's basically a coldsore in the wrong place, a sore one at that but a lot less aggravating so I've been told. You really don't have to tell anyone, no one as ever told me they suffer from a cold sore, not even in advance of sex but a lot of people do carry the virus unknowingly. It can happen anyone. The people u will tell will be a future partner, that's it. I'm always in control. And so are you. It's a skin condition in an unfortunate sensitive area. Keep us posted and please be kind to yourself, you need lots of self love now. Xx

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      **The people I will tell (sorry typo)
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      so I saw my doctor and I showed her a bump that I now have down  there and she doesn't seem too concerned. I told her all my symptoms and she dismissed it for stress. She said I don't have to worry but I still do as the symptoms are happening (very bad headaches, muscle aches, sore throat) I'm still worried very much so.

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