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Notmylife
Notmylife

Just diagnosed 5 days ago and I never thought I could feel this worthless. I have been married for 6 months but in this relationship for 3 years and it looks like my past is going to end my future. I have always been faithful but this makes me look like a dirty whore. I've never in all my years of dating cheated or had the though of cheating I've actually always been cheated on and somehow it comes and bites me in the ass....when will this end!!!!!

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  • Darana
    Darana Notmylife

    Posted

    I am so sorry. I was just diagnosed a 1.5 weeks ago. And I can say I definitely feel a bit down on myself. It's normal to feel that way as it is a way of grieving. You are not a dirty whore at all. Getting herpes does not make one dirty. So many people have it and don't realize they are a carrier. I don't know when I got it? I could have gotten it from my ex-husband or from someone else I had unprotected sex with. None of them had sores that were present. Or I wouldn't have touched/had sex with them.

    Don't let herpes define you. It's a virus. Yeah, it stays with us, but it isn't active all the time.

    Keep your head up.

    • Notmylife
      Notmylife Darana

      Posted

      Thank you so much for the encouragement and I'll try my best to do so.

      I'm sorry to hear of your misfortune as well. I guess time will tell but please keep me in your prayers and I'll do the same for you.

    • Darana
      Darana Notmylife

      Posted

      Thankfully my current boyfriend has been supportive. I suggested him to get tested as well. Since we don't know if he had given it to me or what.

      I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers. We are here to uplift and support each other. You are always welcome to private message me on here if you'd like.

    • Notmylife
      Notmylife Darana

      Posted

      Thank you and I really appreciate support groups like this and the people in them.
  • Livelife
    Livelife Notmylife

    Posted

    Stop stressing hun it's really not a worry there's a high chance you caught it from your husband anyway, they seem to NEVER have symptoms the lucky buggers

    My advice would be speak to your doctor and tell her how you want to arrange a meeting with you the doctor and your husband and have her tell your partner that there is no way of finding out who gave it who and the strong likelyhood that you could of got it years ago or you could of even got it from your husband and are only having the outbreak now.

    This does not effect your life you've obviously carried this for about 3 years and up until a week ago you was going about your life normal, see it really will not affect you!

    2/3 people have some type of herpes it's super common.

    • Notmylife
      Notmylife Livelife

      Posted

      Thank you. I'm married to another woman and it's putting a strain on my marriage.

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus Notmylife

    Posted

    Which HSV type do you have? How were you tested? Did you even have an outbreak? It may not be nearly as bad as you think, and it could well have come from your current partner, if you do in fact actually have it.
    • Notmylife
      Notmylife FelizCastus

      Posted

      HSV 2 and I thought I had a boil went to get it looked at and the dr scrapped it and sent it to the lab. It's the hardest thing that newlyweds can go through.

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