Just diagnosed with genital herpes and don't know where to go from here.
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Today I just got the call from my doctor that I have tested positive for genital herpes. I was told I was exposed within the last month and I have been seeing someone for a month now. Before him I was talking to someone else, but nothing came of it. It sounds selfish and I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but I am weirdly hoping I got it from the partner I'm with now. He is getting tested and I am dreading that the test will come back negative. It will make me feel even more disgusting than I do now. I never had an outbreak genitally, but for the past month I have been having issues with my tonsils being swollen and pus ridden. I'm assuming that I have genital herpes in my mouth, but I'm not even sure that's possible? I'm nervous that if it doesn't work out with the guy I am with now, how will I lead a normal life? How do you even have any type of sexual encounter with someone? When the time comes where I want to have a family am I going to be able to have unprotected sex? So many questions are going through my mind.. I appreciate any type of advice.
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jessica93013 Guest
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I have never had any symptoms whatsoever. No sores or blisters in my mouth or on my genitals. I only had swollen glands in my throat and puss on my tonsils along with swelling of my tonsils. I'm still waiting for my gyno to call me back to even see if those are symptoms of herpes. I went in for a routine check up at the gyno and was tested and to my surprise i was exposed within the last month. I wonder since I didn't have an outbreak when I first caught it is it more likely I wont?
From reading everything on here I can definitely see that you can have a normal life, it is just the fear that if it doesn't work out with this guy how will I explain this to everyone I want to be with. I'm scared of being rejected. If I never have an outbreak, should I even bother telling anyone? I know that a lot of people live without knowing they have it and are completely symptomless.
dora29322 Guest
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Everyone in this life leads a "normal" life. Your definition of normal maybe totally different than anyone else in this world. Just remember to always stay true to yourself and others.
Contracted HSV-2 July 2010 and wasn't diagnosed until September 2016. Through my research i have read that it's easier for a male to pass it along to a female than for a female to pass it to a male. But it CAN happen (i mean if it couldn't then this would be a virus only us gals have).Research is so important for yourself and when you explain to another what it is/ is not.
Always keep informed and stay true ?
dora29322
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Meaning that it is easier for you to explain if you stay informed about the difference in what HSV -2 is than what is not. A lot of people 'think' they know but really don't.
Best wishes
Livelife Guest
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Hey I've also been diagnosed today with the same I've spent the past 4 days knowing what it was though the thing that helped me was a doctor who spoke on the matter of relationships online and said that he found that many people who start dating someone with herpes normally just accept it because it literally is just a skin condition, my boyfriend gave it to me and I caught it,
What you need to remember is that it's a skin condition you have a cold sore but down there, so next time you're with someone let them know that you suffer from cold sores (you know along with 85% of the population) and they can be transmitted through sex if you're not careful, if you tell them cold sores they really won't give a damn but if you're up in their face saying you have herpes it sounds dodgy haha!
My mom suffers from cold sores and she doesn't even think it's because of herpes! She's got married and had me and my brother!