Just diagnosed with hsv2

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Was diagnosed two days ago. As upset as I am about this, I am also very confused. I am 28 and i've had 4 other sexual partners beaides my current boyfriend who I have been with for 7 years. I have not had sex with anyone but him. Last month I had a uti amd sores but I thought the sores were because of the uti. A month later, again sores. The Dr took a sore sample and came back pos. I am confused bc I was tested via if blood test last year, last month after i had the uti, and a couple days before the sore sample was collected. All blood tests were negative. My boyfriend swears he has not cheated. How could it be that I test neg for one test but the other? Does it mean it was a recent infection? I really do trust him and believe him when he says he hasn't cheated. I javenhaveny cheated.how can this happen? If I had it from a previous partner wouldn't have I been pos since last year?

My boyfriend is getting a blood test and havent gotten his results yet. I want to get married to my boyfriend and have kids someday. How can we do that if he is neg? I don't want to pass it to him. Also, do any of you know of support groups? I live near riverside ca.

Please help and offer some kind motivating words. I feel so hopeless.

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    I feel ur pain sweetie.. I've been with my husband for 17 years and found out in august that I am hsv2 positive. He's never had any indication of having it. I never had blood work done specifically for hsv but I assumed my yearly pap included this which it didnt. I'm no Dr but I'd say if ur labs before came back negative that this would be a recent infection u don't usually build the antibodies until around 3 months post exposure. As for getting married and have kids having this skin infection doesn't change anything. I would start taking a suppressant dose daily and no have any sexual contact during an outbreak or if u think ur having an ouybreak

    • Posted

      Thank you for the support and optimism. It ia very difficult to have that right now. I am not very educated on this. I feel like a normal sex life isn't possible. I read that suppressants along with condoms and no sex during outbreaks lessens the chances of it passing , but if I want to have kids the natural way that would mean no condoms. I just dont want to give it to him. And is oral sex even possible anymore with hsv2? I apologize if these questions are intrusive. I just have no one else to ask and googling gives me different answers.

  • Posted

    Sounds like a recent infection, but that doesn't necessarily mean anyone cheated. It is possible for a discordant couple to go for months or years before the negative partner acquires herpes from the positive partner. Usually that happens in the first few months of a new relationship, but it's not unheard of to have that happen much later.

    • Posted

      He had a blood test last month and it was neg. I read that even if it is dormant, the antibodies would still show up. One of us would of had to be pos to pass it and yet all blood tests come up neg. I dont understand....
    • Posted

      Perhaps the wrong blood test is being done. Make sure it's for HSV2 *IgG* antibodies, not IgM.

  • Posted

    I feel your pain sweetie.

    Herpes doesn't stop your baby making.

    It's just as soon as you find out you are pregnant the doctors more then likely will put you on suppressive medicine ... if you aren't already on it just in case you do have an outbreak you don't want to pass it onto your baby.

    Herpes is actual a growing stimulation for some reason ..

    Nobody is knowing that they have it and for some odd reason herpes is not a AUTOMATIC test they do on a std panel unless you ask or you're showing some type of signs of sores ..

    I've been positive since 2015 & my ex who I've been sleeping with to this day is negative ..

    More people have it then you think & the same people that talk down on it 8 times out of 10 have it and they don't even know it.

    People also think because you don't have an outbreak that the disease doesn't spread.

    The virus still sheds even if you don't have an outbreak an outbreak is just the top lethal way to indeed spread it .

    Everything will be okay sweetie .. everyone feels this way when they first get it . Hell I use to down talk people In these positions . Now look at me ..

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