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Just finding out partner has herpes

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YZ78910

I just need answers my partner just recently found out that she has herpes and is experiencing her first outbreak . I haven't been tested yet but I don't know what to expect and what I should be worried about or not worry about . I'm very confused because my belief is that if she has it I have it since we are sexually active with one another .

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  • justsolucky524
    justsolucky524 YZ78910

    Posted

    Sorry to hear about your partner. Ok so there are a couple of things and questions to consider. Did she get a swab test and a blood(igg) test done? Here's why, if she did and the swab came back positive and the blood test negative it would suggest a recent infection. If positive by blood test during this first outbreak it would suggest she has had Hsv for at least three months but possibly longer. Were her symptoms noticed shortly after you two were intimate? Often, the primary infection and symptoms occur between 2 days to 2 weeks of exposure...For those that have symptoms. Most importantly, not everyone shows symptoms of Hsv as a matter of fact the majority do not or experience only mild symptoms which can easily be misdiagnosed as something else. Yes it is possible that you are positive but the only way to know for sure is to get tested and that will be very helpful to your relationship going forward.

    • YZ78910
      YZ78910 justsolucky524

      Posted

      Ok so she has been tested through the swap test and it came back positive but she didn't get the blood test because the swap was positive so I'm guessing it's like well why get the swap. So because the swap came back positive does this mean that the infection is a recent infection ? She has also received oral sex from someone else could she have possible obtained the infection this way also? Her symptoms were also noticed maybe a few days after the last time we were intimate it started off as two scratches on her vagina and then expanded into an outbreak

    • justsolucky524
      justsolucky524 YZ78910

      Posted

      Ok so the important thing to note is timing. To get the best idea of recent infection or not requires both a swab and a blood test called igg. The positive swab simply means the culture collected in the swab contains the herpes virus, it takes the body approximately 3 months to develop a detectable level of antibodies to show up on the blood test. As a result a positive swab test + a negative blood test would suggest she has been infected for less than approximately 3 months whereas a positive swab + positive blood test would suggest an older infection or greater than 3 months. What type did she test positive for? Hsv 1 or Hsv 2? Type 1 prefers the oral area and type 2 prefers the genital area, simply means chances are greater for transmission of hsv2 with genital to genital contact and for Hsv 1 chances of transmission are greater with oral to oral contact but please always note that though it may be a lower possibility it is still possible to transmit hsv1 to the genitals and vice versa.
    • YZ78910
      YZ78910 justsolucky524

      Posted

      She has only done the swap method . She has always test positive for hsv 2 and she's experiencing tremendous pain on her vagina so bad that she told me it hurts to sit and walk at times . This whole process is scary to me and it's hard to comfort her through all this she isn't taking it so lite.

  • marie03432
    marie03432 YZ78910

    Posted

    I've had herpes for about 3 years now. I've been with my partner for 2 years and am currently pregnant. He has never contracted herpes from me and we live a normal life. He is fully aware of my condition and chose to start a family with me. I'm on supressive meds and obviously we stay away from each other when I'm having an outbreak.

    • YZ78910
      YZ78910 marie03432

      Posted

      Wow that's wonderful that's always great to hear something optimistic

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