Just found out I have herpes

I just had my very first outbreak Friday is when it started. It kept progressing and now it is so horrible. I hate urinating because it stings so bad. And I have to take 1g twice a day.

I told my current boyfriend and at first he was all mad about it. Then he said he needed to go get checked because he wasn't with anyone different for 7 years. So he accused me of giving it to him but he hasn't been checked yet

Yeah I honestly won't ever wish this kind of pain on the most hated person in the world. I have had this since saturday. I now can't walk, barely pee, just started the Valtrex and wish it would hurry up the process. Any ideas on how to pee. I feel like something bad is going to happen if I can't urinate. And then on top of it I have a uti, which makes it that much more difficult and painful

You can try to pour some warm water over your area as you are urinating and it makes the pain a bit less. Taking baths with bath salts helps a lot too. You can also try to use some tea tree oil on the affected area and it will lessen the pain of the ulcers. Tea tree oil is one of your best bets. And definitely stay hydrated. The more hydrated you are the less it will hurt to pee.

Your bf could be an asymptomatic carrier. It will be interesting to see how he tests. Make sure it's by IgG, not IgM.

The UTI that many women get with first outbreaks is actually part of the herpes infection, usually caused by lesions inside the urethra.

Anne's advice is good. Drink lots of water and pour water down below while you pee. Both help to reduce the burning loads.

That's really interesting to see. So he could be carrying it but it not be active? And the water helped along with the bactrum I have applied orajel to the area and thats helping amazingly. I also found out if I literally "squat" over the toilet it helps incredibly. Thank you for all advice

I'm really scared to take baths with anything because the burning sensation of just my urine gets me almost screaming I'm on my third day of valtrex and amazingly enough my symptoms are becoming more and more less. I can walk better now and urinate better. My depression about everything is also becoming less being able to talk to everyone on here and having support and not being judged. Thank you for all the advice

He could be carrying it and periodically shedding the virus (normal for herpes to periodically shed), just not displaying symptoms (or not recognisable symptoms). No symptoms does not mean not active, since the virus is active during silent shedding phases.

That makes sense. Because before I had any kind of sexual interaction with anyone I kind of checked them out like physically to see if they had any kind of nasty looking anything or itching or and defomalities that might freak me out. But this guy, was perfectly clean everywhere didn't see anything on him. I'm just glad when I told him, he was calm about it. Almost like he knew he had it but didn't want to tell me.

So....you will see how the valtrex works.....now what you will do is understand your body and learn to take the Valtrex ahead of time.  Whis means...when you feel that itchyness......take it right away!  This way you prevent any out break.  Avoid tight underwear and pants.......let yourself breath air on your genital areas........I sleep with out any underwear.......except for when I am on my period.  Oh.....and you might breakout before or after your period.....so if I sense it happening...then I will take a Valtrex for 2-3 days.   You learn to give yourself a break from the valtrex and just take it when you sense any itching.  they are expensive....I take the brand name.....I only believe in the brand name to work better f or me...so I pay more for it.  You do understand oral sex is off the list.....especially if you like french kissing< at least you want to make sure your mouth is safe from herpes...as well as your partner. at="" least="" you="" want="" to="" make="" sure="" your="" mouth="" is="" safe="" from="" herpes...as="" well="" as="" your="">

The doctor explained everything to me. He said since I have hsv-2 to stay away from oral but kissing is fine. Unless I happen to get a sore on my lip (common sense not to do it) but I've been taking the valtrex for 3 days and I am starting to feel A LOT better. Plus, my insurance pays for it and I'm a form believer in taking the straight brand name medication as well. I'm upset this happened to me but, happy it was this and not anything like hiv/aids.

Actually the odds of someone catching Type 2 orally through oral sex are low (when not newly infected, not having an outbreak, and especially if on daily suppressive meds), and even if someone got it orally, it would barely recur or shed.

I was kind of trying to say that but didn't want to misinform anyone I've done A LOT of research on this and I haven't looked up much about oral I've never had any herpes around my mouth but still want to be cautious