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Just found out I have herpes and I'm single and living in australia

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kay1990
kay1990

I just turned 25, I have a great job and up for a promotion and I just found out I have herpes. I have never cried so much and so hard after realising one stupid drunken mistake could potentially ruin my life.

There doesn't seem to be a lot of support groups in Australia, so for any Australians out there some help will be appreciated. I'm terrified of telling anyone and feel disgusting, dirty and angry at the person who gave it to me. Even if he never knew, just getting checked would have stopped this from happening. I'm ashamed to say my little knowledge of herpes was that it was from a lot of unprotected sex but reading these stories have made me realise it can happen to anyone.

I'm currently single and the thought of having to tell a future partner about it turns my mistake because I will feel so vulnerable and scared. Please tell me there is a light at the end of the table- I recently lost 20 kilos and am looking the best I have been and in the prime of my life but now it feels like the opportunities I would have had have tumbled down into the abyss.

I'm from sydney

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  • mikarose
    mikarose kay1990

    Posted

    I'm from Australia too (but not Sydney) also female around your age.

    It's been about 3-4 months for me.

    I am on daily suppressants which is helpful as I have no signs or symptoms what so ever since the first one.

    The emotional side of it is very tough. I have wanted to end my life, which is a very common thought process with this.. Over cold cores?? Seems ridiculous in some ways. The stigma, embarrassment and just yuck thought that you can't get rid of it is hard to deal with.

    I'm not over it all yet but I'm learning to live with it.

    I was single when I got it (I was assaulted). Im not single now, I have recently met someone who is really amazing and accepting - and he is educated and attractive, not a weirdo which is what I had thought I would be settling for..!

    You'll be okay I promise xx

  • cartercali
    cartercali kay1990

    Posted

    Hey Kay,.

    How are you holding up ?

    I totally and completely understand where you are coming from , I'm actually from the states and I have yet to find a support group for herpes of Any kind .

    I'm only 20 and I got diagnosed with this tragedy December 15th, 2015 .. Never got told that they were infected either and they knew they had because they tried to blame it on me...

    I can say it does get easier as the days go on .

    Just recently me and my boyfriend broke up so it has me feeling queasy about everything and if I will ever find someone for me with this disease ..

    I mean .. Before I got this I seriously seriously wouldn't ever ever dream about being involved with anyone that had a sti / std . Let alike someone with an incurable one ., so if my mind thinks like that then I surely can't blame someone for thinking the same way towards me .

    Relax tho honey ., from what you said it seems like you have a lot going for yourself & right now you're still in shock ..,

    Everything happens for a reason and God wouldn't put you through it if he didn't think you could make it

    How was your first outbreak ? Did you Contact the person you had sex with ? What did they say about it ?

  • jolene55185
    jolene55185 kay1990

    Posted

    Hey, anyone looking for an online support group for HSV, go to H Opportunity. It is a forum sight similar to this, but specifically for people living with H. They have free downloads of all the facts, and great disclosure success stories. I was diagnosed with with type 2 a little over two weeks ago, the H Opportunity site has helped me cope a lot, we are not alone in this! I am in the states also so I am not sure if it is available in Australia or not?
  • ellie02302
    ellie02302 kay1990

    Posted

    Hello~ I'm from Australia too 😊

    I was diagnosed end of January this year when i was in Queensland for a holiday and it was the worst thing I've ever had....

    Im in a relationship with a great guy (he's the one who gave it to me) but he never knew he had it but ever since i told him he's been supportive and helps me through it all.

    Right now i think I'm about to have my second outbreak since I've noticed small bumps in the area and they are itchy...I'm scared because of my first outbreak but i know it won't be as bad.

    Just to let you know I'm 16 years old and you shouldn't feel bad or dirty etc because im sure you're a great girl and you'll find someone who love you and will still be with you even with herpes.

    Just stay positive okay? Xxx

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