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Just found out I have herpes, feeling depressed

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kyra55985
kyra55985

I was just informed by my doctor I have herpes. I'm still waiting for the test results but if the doc just takes one look and says you have herpes then...yeah I probably have it. I thought it was just a mild rash at first but I guess my pain tolerance is pretty high. I mustce had it for a while and not shown any symptoms because i havent had sex in a while. The doctor was pretty condescending about the whole thing too like a "well another one bites the dust" tone. So I was just condescending back to her. I'm not one to get emotional. I was just like "okay so what's the plan now? what are the next steps?" But when i got home i just cried for hours. I told this guy I'm talking to the same exact day since its moving toward a replationship. I wasn't going to at first but it just kinda came out while we were on the phone. He said he was fine with it and wanted to help me through whatever I needed which is very sweet, but I feel like it's a pitty thing! Like well now I HAVE to stay with her. And I don't know if I'm staying with him now because I really see myself with him or because in the back of my mind I'm thinking no one else will ever want me? And I feel different like I'm not as cute or cool or dateable.

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  • alejandra53512
    alejandra53512 kyra55985

    Posted

    Well i just went through this a few weeks ago. Having my first outbreak. Im so sorry the doctor made you feel that way. One way to look at this though as far as your "another ones bites the dust" comment is that genital herpes is more common than you think. I think the statistic is 1 in 5 people have it?

    Its not as bad as it seems! People make it seem much worse than what it really is. As far as your relationship situation goes i wish i could help you with that. All i can say is maybe your mind right now isnt in the right place becaus of all these emotions your feeling having just found out you have herpes. Right now you should focus though on takeling care of yourself and your outbreak. If he really cares hell stay

  • m69715
    m69715 kyra55985

    Posted

    Hi, feeling depressed is normal...it's very scary but it seem much worse than what it Truely is..I found out I had both 1 and 2 almost a yr ago and I thought my life was over...I thought this was gonna control my life and my boyfriend was not gonna want me any more (I believe I caught it 2yrs ago with someone I was previously involved with) I was so scared to tell my boyfriend because I thought he would think I cheated or thought I was nasty and disgusting. ..still I made the choice to tell him and I'm glad I did he is very supportive but other than him and my doctor...and u guys ofcourse no one else knows because I'm afraid of what ppl will think...but anyways I don't let this control me and I'm done feeling sorry for myself...as time goes on u will educate yourself and begin to feel a little better about it...and it always helps to read other forums to try and see what's normal or what to expect
    • kyra55985
      kyra55985 m69715

      Posted

      Wow thanks for this! So how is your sex life and what do you do to lower his chances of getting it? Because I'm afraid of that too.
    • m69715
      m69715 kyra55985

      Posted

      No problem hun, .....although I've only had 2 outbreaks I did decide to get on antivirals everyday (Acyclovir) just so I can lower the chances of my significant other catching it and also because I don't want to have to run to the doctor everytime I have an episode. Sex life is pretty much the same we use condoms most of the time and when ever I feel like I am about to have an outbreak we don't have sex at all...
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