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ouch109
ouch109

Just got the news

My head is reeling

I will spare you all my outrage, i am sure you have all been through it.... Feels like life is over..alone forever... Dreams smashed... Blah blah...

Here is my question

I was in a monogamous relationship that ended 3 years ago (he had a very promiscuous life prior)

I started a new relationship 8 mos ago

I am 48 female

Having first episode now

Could i have gotten from the 3 yr ago boy friend?

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  • noelle2212
    noelle2212 ouch109

    Posted

    Yes you could have... It can lay dominant in your system for years
    • rockin_R
      rockin_R noelle2212

      Posted

      Yes it sure can. But was mine I saw something and did not pay attention to it because I had no idea about the herpes simplex virus or anything associated with it I've had it so long I don't even know what the name of it is anymore
  • rockin_R
    rockin_R ouch109

    Posted

    It's possible that the herpes virus live dormant in your blood sure. More than likely it was the latter boyfriend. I have had experience with win and with whom and it was immediate. Take a look at his private parts see if you got any dry scaly skin there or redness anywhere it may even look like the store that has healed. Come back and talk to me about that secondly keep cool. body temperature wise. You've got to keep the fever down honey. Would be wise to take a fever reducer two to three times a day at least if you can. Second thing is cool water wash . No ma'am your life is not over. You should just have to learn how to control it and don't let it control you. You could have the tools I will tell you my tools to keep the misery down. I will notice t something will be coming up on my privates if I feel bruised down there really bruised or it stings or starts to itch. As soon as I felt something down there I immediately disinfected my hands. This is a highly transmittable disease no matter what they say if you have an open blister and you touch somebody else you can give them that right there on their skin. I had a girlfriend that had it on her spot on the inner part of her thigh.So it come in strange places that was something I haven't been able to shower yet but anyway first rule stay cool dry clean stress-free no party and definitely no sex for 7 days at least mostly 10 I would be careful careful. It hurts like nobody's business when you try to make love with this outbreak brings nothing but misery so don't try. No tight jeans no friction in the beginning women do normally get more outbreaks then they will towards the middle of their lives for so on. I really believe that it is a raging disease in the beginning it's very well its not prejudiced put it that way you can put the really visible days on you but pay attention to what I told you to stay clean stay cool no hot showers reduce the fever no alcohol you got it ok god bless you be careful I hope this was a help to you. I would check your mate then I would ask your other mate just in case
  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus ouch109

    Posted

    How were you diagnosed and which type? Have you ever had cold sores before, even if only as a child? What were your outbreak symptoms?
    • rockin_R
      rockin_R FelizCastus

      Posted

      It felt like somebody pinched me on my privates. Followed by a continuous nagging itch . I wish in 113 degree weather traveling to Amarillo Texas. And the heat was really bad. There was some other situations involved with that but the heat had a lot to do with the transferring or the transmitting of my disease. I've never had cold sores on my mouth or otherwise. My sister has cold sores on her mouth and she also has it of the eye if you can believe that. So basically asking a terrible itch an overwhelming Bruce feeling at the site of where the outbreak was about to happen
    • rockin_R
      rockin_R FelizCastus

      Posted

      You're asking someone in particular? I apologize I wasn't aware of that
  • ouch109
    ouch109

    Posted

    I have been having chronic mysterious vaginal infections.  This has been an ongoing issue for many years.  Alsways after sex I end up with bacterial infection that responds only to antibiotics.  Recently very strange bacteria found  Klebsiella e-coli.  It was not diagnosed because the infections probably masked the symptoms.  Most recently I was diagnosed with vulvodynia which is unexplained vulvular pain considered to be a type of fibromyalsia.  Very bleak. 

    Tuesday I went to gyno with what I though was another infection and I pointed out a little bump at the top of the labia.  It really seemed like nothing... but thought I shuld mention it.  She broke it open and swabbed.  No other bumps or blisters, and I dont think that one would have broken open if she hadnt opend it. 

    Lots of vulvar burning though.  I took my first valtrex a couple of hours ago. 

    • ouch109
      ouch109

      Posted

      Seems most likely that its the most recent guy

      But he is very decent and would have said if he knew. I understand people can have the virus and never have symptoms.

      I kinda wonder if i didnt have an outbreak in the other relationship but it was masked by infection symproms

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus ouch109

      Posted

      Hard to say if you never tested for it before, but a positive swab for HSV-2 is conclusive.

      Given how minor this outbreak was, with just the one bump, it could well be a recurrent outbreak, so it's possible that you acquired GH from your previous partner. Did you notice swollen lymph nodes in your groin this time? That is more common with primary outbreaks.

      You could do an IgG antibody test to see what your score is, but that doesn't always mean much. Alternatively, ask your ex and/or current partner to do the test.

    • rockin_R
      rockin_R ouch109

      Posted

      Wow girlfriend bless your heart if it wasn't one thing it was another right? I would be really concerned about all those infections after you have sex please use a condom for your safety her own good. It would be helpful that way I certainly won't come up with a bacterial infection unless the condom breaks. Personally it would make me question who I was sleeping with. But that might not B the same for you. After all you have had several infections. Did your doctor take a blood test? That will confirm it. Also she broke up with a blister and swabbed.it. I would almost be certain that would be herpes. I've never had a blister be anything but in my private parts. And thank her very much for creating some terrible symptoms you are probably having now pain slow healing and the chance to spread this among your own self and body. I hate it when they do that. I had had constipation one time and just straining to go to the bathroom had caused me to have a fissure which is a tear in my anus and a small bump which never festered. I have actually had herpes of my anus because of the fact that everything is so close together. I could never actually wipe with toilet paper that hurts. Just dab wanna look up what you said you have had as far as bacterial infections go and other infections you mentioned I'm very curious if you don't mind
  • brandy091984
    brandy091984 ouch109

    Posted

    As was said, it is possible that it was the bf of 3 years, but more than likely it was the more recent one. Its hard to say though
  • ouch109
    ouch109

    Posted

    So

    Just so im sure i get it

    If i have alot of antibiodies i have probably had a long time

    If antibodies are low its likely new?

    • rockin_R
      rockin_R ouch109

      Posted

      I'm sorry but this is the first time I have ever heard of antibodies being involved. Maybe you can share with someone has shared with you so I can better understand what they're trying to tell you
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus ouch109

      Posted

      Very generally speaking, yes, but it's by no means an accurate way to gauge when, how long, etc. Some people also have low(er) levels after many years.
    • rockin_R
      rockin_R FelizCastus

      Posted

      That's something I wasn't aware of because when I started having it it was back in 1980. Back then they bury you what the heck it was. & I always knew what to do so we can discuss it much unless I was telling them what helps me. But I never got feedback in regards to antibodies and stuff like that very interesting to know I appreciate that Thank You Felis
    • rockin_R
      rockin_R

      Posted

      Do you also have this condition? What has been your experience if you don't mind me asking
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus rockin_R

      Posted

      No problem, R! Yes, our bodies build up antibodies to HSV after infection, which is why the IgG blood test has a window period of 3-4 months. Before this time, following a new infection, HSV antibody production is in the early stages, so may not be detectable or very low. After the window period, there should be enough to show in the test. Established HSV infections usually have a high antibody count, but it can also be low in some people.

      I have Type 2. Recently acquired, but I have been researching genital herpes like crazy for weeks, since I am currently jobless with nothing better to do, lol. Think I've read nearly every expert forum, study and article! A week after catching this horrible virus, I had no antibodies, so I was never infected previously. At 3 months I will test again, and I'm sure I will have a high count by then.

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus

      Posted

      Experience-wise, I had a relatively mild/moderate primary outbreak that lasted a couple of weeks overall. First week was worse, mainly due to burning urination from urethritis. I had about half a dozen visible lesions at most. None of these particularly hurt or itch. If subsequent outbreaks are typically milder than the first , then I am hoping mine will be barely noticeable!
    • rockin_R
      rockin_R FelizCastus

      Posted

      Well I sure am sorry you got this you were an unexpected victim just like I was. I know the person new before our rendezvous. That's what drives me is that they know they're active and they still do it anyway. Currently if you have HIV and give it to somebody else' knowingly, it is a charge of manslaughter for attempted murder right
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