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Just need someone to listen and advise

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ChizBitz
ChizBitz

Hi Ladies,

I came across this forum when I was desperately trying to find out how I can get to talk to a human female about post menopause as I have given up trying to talk to my GP surgery about this.

I am 50 years old, all I can tell you is that 3 years ago after no periods for 3 months I had to fight to get anyone to test my hormone levels for the menopause.  One female GP told me that having my bloods tested would be a waste of resource as I was too young to be going through it and even if I was "just get on with it, every woman goes through it".  6 months later (no period for 9 months and no baby) I asked to speak to my old GP who immediately sent me for a blood test and called me with the results ... yep he told me that I was going through it and that I should be through it in a matter of months.  He offered me HRT but as I had not suffered any bad symptoms I declined it.

Since then my joints have ached more and more, my feet hurt in the morning for a couple of minutes and I can't control my weight gain. I saw another GP who suggested that I  "lose weight and stop carrying heavy items".  I sit at a desk all day and the heaviest thing I carry is my handbag.

I recently went to see another GP as I woke up with the fingers of my left hand curled into my palm and I couldn't open them without a struggle, he has sent me for blood tests for Arthritis. When I asked to speak to him about a different matter i.e. HRT etc. he said "only if it's quick". I left.

So my question is this .... Where can I find a human female health professional that doesn't expect me to know everything, doesn't want to rush me out the door but who I can sit down with a talk to.  I have no idea if any of my symptoms (some I haven't mentioned here) are due to age or menopause or if HRT will be a help or a hindrance, my body is changing and I need to undersatnd what is going on and how I can manage it and get a better quality of life.

Any advise would be useful.

Thanks

 

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  • suzyjar
    suzyjar ChizBitz

    Posted

    Here I Australia we have women's health clinics, its set up by local council, but has female doctors, social workers etc. Ring your local council or community center and see if they have anything. Otherwise find a female doctor and make an extended appointment. Tell them you need questions answered.
  • debbie75601
    debbie75601 ChizBitz

    Posted

    I feel you sister! I'm still searching for that special physician that actually cares and listens. Been to gyno and GP , both female, and they offered no help. Just act like I'm wasting their time. It's so frustrating, especially since I have no one in my family I can talk to about this. This forum has been my only resource. Good luck to you, hope you find your special doctor.
  • liz53953
    liz53953 ChizBitz

    Posted

    Hi I think every woman on here would like a doctor who would listen and advise. The best place I went to was a clinic for sexual advice. They were kind caring and listened to me. After all sexual advice covers menopause as well . Best place I ever went no one else wants to listen.
  • terri16632
    terri16632 ChizBitz

    Posted

    If you click on my name and follow my discussions, you will see a ton of people who are experiencing the same issues. Like someone else posted, the common thread is i haven't found any doctor who can resolve the problem. The answer lies in natural remedies, not drugs.  The answer I have found to alleviate almost every issue is nutrition and supplements.  I am 54 and in the past two years have had tests for arthritis and muscle disorders (not to forget sleeplessness, incontinence, constipation, dizziness, nerve tingling, arm and toe numbness, on and on).  After trying steroids, therapy, chiropractors, not to mention other specialists, the only thing that made me feel normal again was to take a superfood supplement.  Please read the discussions and you'll find you are not alone, you'll get an idea of what's happening.
  • TropicalVon69
    TropicalVon69 ChizBitz

    Posted

    Can we ask what supplements you are taking?
    • ChizBitz
      ChizBitz TropicalVon69

      Posted

      Hi I'm not taking anything and never have. There's just so much to choose from and you can never be sure if it's independent advice or its been paid for by the manufacturer. I used to work in the pharmaceutical industry and I'm very cautious
  • terri16632
    terri16632 ChizBitz

    Posted

    I can't post the product name.  You can send a private message and I'll tell you what works for me.  I think you just click my name and send a message through the envelope icon.
  • Guest
    Guest ChizBitz

    Posted

    I am hearing you! Live in Australia and have doctor shopped...found one older woman who was great but she moved!!! Got told by one female doctor there was no such thing as she flew through menopause /sad

    Am realising its up to me to research and find what helps...this forum is great for that. I do go and get tests when necessary though...esp for palpitations and other symptoms just to rule out more serious issues. Otherwise unless we find that great doctor we are on our own it seems.

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