Just some clarity

Hi,

I just wanted to reply to tell you that you aren't on your own and that you certainly haven't ruined your life or made so many mistakes. We learn from our mistakes. I can identify with how you're feeling, I'm 23 have everything that I've always wanted but still I have an awful feeling of constant anxiety and have recently began taking medication. We can't help how we feel and you can't blame yourself for other people's actions. CBT isn't effective for everybody it's like anything else, works for some and not for others. But you have to keep trying and looking at other options available to you. Go to your doctor or mental health service. You're still young and 16 is tough anyway, never mind what you've been through as well. Hope this helps, please don't despair.

Hi Chio

Mistakes are all part of life there isn't anyone who can say that they haven't made mistakes you have to put each one behind you and learn from them 16 is a very difficult age you have different emotions all the time it shows that you are a caring person, friends have to make their own decisions it does not mean you have to follow them, drugs are a very dangerous route to take, it ruins your life and your family you have personal experience of this with your dad going to prison so please choose your friends carefully it seems to me that once people start on that route they want everyone to do the same it makes them feel better about what they are doing in their own life .Feeling sick and shaky is caused by anxiety and stress as you are worrying about everything and everyone ,what is your relationship like with your mum as you don't mention her at all. I can guarantee you are not alone in feeling this way everyone feels like this at some stages of their life, don't despair things will get better

X

Thankyou both for your responses. Just nice to know I'm not alone because I feel it! My relationship with my my mum is hard. I lived with her for my whole younger life and saw my dad on weekends (they haven't been together since I was born, but remain friends), then when I was about 13 me and my mum couldn't even be in the same room without arguing. It brought me really down. So I ended up living with my dad and seeing my mum in the week for 2 days or so. Now, I'm 16, we have started to really bond again and it's great. I spend about half my time with each of my parents. My mum is quite similar to me in the sense that when my nan died, she had severe depression and I think that's also what may of kicked mine off. It's just hard because I'm so up and down. It's ridiculous. I feel so alone even when I'm surrounded by people. I feel like I care so much for all my friends and the people around me and none of them care about me like that. I'm the counsellor to all o my friends. I can talk to anyone about anything and always be able to help. But I just can't help myself. I've self harmed previously and even contemplated suicide. and my problem with all if it is, that I can't justify why I feel so low

Hi Chio

Why do we always have to justify everything it would be so easy to accept that this is a difficult time in your life and accept that it will pass within a little time, the fact that you provide support to others is because you can and people will always gravitate to you because you care leaving them to make whatever decision they chose with or without listening to you which leaves you feeling you haven't helped at all and you then have the burdon of that problem what we need to accept is that people will make their own decisions you can only listen and offer advice but be prepared to accept that you have tried your best at being a good friend and move on. I'm glad you have re established your relationship with your mum she will always be there for you talk to her and confide how you are feeling if she has suffered with depression and anxiety so she will understand the loss of a family member is very hard to take sometimes you think you are dealing with it but it affects people in different ways you sound pretty grounded but you are struggling at this time accept that and look towards happier times and accept that you can only be there for friends you can't make decisions for them concentrate on what you want for a while take care xx