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amy07772
amy07772

Almost a week ago I started feeling very sore around my vagina. I just figured it was from sex and the fact that the guy I was having sex with was way bigger in that area than my ex. That was in a Friday. That Sunday I was in so much pain. Couldn't walk, sit, stand lay down or find any position to sit in to make the pain go away. I thought I had cut myself while shaving down there and was shaving so often that I figured I just had ingrown hair or something. I had my ex look at it and he saw red bumps with what looked like a hair sticking out of the top. We googled it and looked just like an ingrown hair and he said it looked like I cut myself pretty badly while shaving. I was in tears from the pain. Couldn't sleep didn't want to drink anything because the pain from peeing was so awful. I did start to lean forward while I peed and that helped a lot. I started to get so scared because the pain just kept getting worse. I have never had anything like this before. Went to my dr and he said right from looking at it that it looked like gh. He said it looked like the oral kind that usually goes away and 90% of people never have any other issues. He took swabs which hurt so bad because I was already so swollen and raw down there. He gave me a prescription valacyclovir but got the generic valtrex a 1gm tab and some gel lidocaine to use to help with the pain. I just started the pills yesterday (Thursday) as well as the gel. The gel burns when you first put it on but then goes away and I feel about 70% better than when I didn't have anything. My dr says it takes about 2 days for the medication to kick in. I have been so scared and disgusted with myself. My partner didn't have any bumps or sores on his genitals or mouth so not sure how I got it. Dr explained that even though you don't have a breakout you still can carry the antibodies of it and pass it on. I can't believe I was so stupid. My partner said that he was tested a few months ago and didn't have anything. Idk how I would have gotten it other than he's not telling the truth. Does anyone know if you still have intercourse with someone who has heroes will that make you have another outbreak right away or make it worse. I def can't even think about sex right now because I'm so sore but was just wondering how this works for partners in the future. Reading the posts have helped me relax a lot. I get my test results back on Monday. I'm still in denial thinking there is some sort of explanation other than an std for it but since my medicine I was prescribed is for herpes I find it hard to talk myself into thinking it's something else. Thank you for the posts everyone writes. It is very helpful especially for those that are just diagnosed like I am and freaking out inside. It helps to know that it does get better even though it's the worst pain you could ever feel. I also put that up there with labor. Those pains are pretty close. I wish everyone good luck. If anyone has an update let me know how you are doing. I will do the same just curious to how long it took you to feel normal again. I know I read an outbreak could let 2-3 weeks and the first one is the worst. Thank you.

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  • littley89522
    littley89522 amy07772

    Posted

    Hello. I'm so sorry you've just been diagnosed with this. I've been with my husband for 7 years and only got diagnosed 2 months ago I was so upset I didn't know what to think I was crying and the pain I felt so suicidal!! I've also got 2 children eldest 5. I didn't know what to think but then was told I could have got it when u first lost my virginity. There's 2 different types 1 or 2. Number 1 is from coldsaw on the lips from oral sex and number 2 is from sex. You can't get tested if you are not showing symptoms as it's dormant. Keep strong I found salt water baths healed it quicker I was also allergic to the gel which gave me a horrible rash that was so sore so it took 6 weeks to heap. You may also find your really itchy after wards that's just healing. Xx
    • amy07772
      amy07772 littley89522

      Posted

      Thank you. I also have two children. 12 and 7. I have never had any cold sores or anything. That is what has been so confusing. I'm still alittle itchy but the gel helps to numb me alittle. It doesn't help that I got my period two days after symptoms started so it's harder to keep clean and dry. I'm trying to stay positive about it. Lesson learned. It was a moment of weakness that I went against my better judgement and ignored my gut instinct and I will never do that again.
  • NuMe
    NuMe amy07772

    Posted

    I'm still in my healing process, both physically and emotionally. I learned a new trick for urinating. I take a bottle of water and squeeze it on my vagina while I pee. Might sound like alot of work but it helps me ALOT with the burning. I too had a situation about asking my partner and he said he had gotten tested months ago. In my case I'm 90% sure he has been lying about everything and knew this whole time that he had it. I surely hope that's not your case! Usually when we get a STD test done they don't check for EVERYTHING unless you tell them to so it's very possible that that's what happened with your partner. I'm still waiting for my confirmation but I've already accepted it for what it is. Really trying to turn this negative into a positive..no pun intended. Everything will be fine. Don't you worry! And yes I think it takes like two weeks atleast to fully heal. Monday will make it a week since I've been on my meds. I don't have the white blisters anymore but it's still kind of raw and sensitive down there. Here if needed! Good luck!
    • amy07772
      amy07772 NuMe

      Posted

      I think my partner is lying because I have never had any other symptoms. Not even cold sores or anything like this. He says that he gets tested regularly and has never had these symptoms either. Idk I guess lesson learned. Yes I have heard the water bottle thing works. Too. I lean as far forward as possible when I pee and that helps too. I also do the water thing and after showers I pat dry and then use a blow dryer to dry it all of the way I hear that helps with the healing of the bumps. I have taken baths with gold bond medicated powder as well and that helps alittle but not too much. Pretty much while in the bath tub. Thank you for your side and ideas. Anything at this point will come in handy.
    • amy07772
      amy07772

      Posted

      I got my results yesterday (Saturday). It is HSV1. My dr said that's not really a big deal as it goes away and tends not to come back. That is a big relief. Still very sore still in my first week of the outbreak. Told my partner the results. He apologized so that makes me think he knew he had it. But I told him no worries as it will go away and there is a good chance he didn't know since he had no symptoms that I saw. I've come out of the anger stage and just want to move on from all of this. Just thought I would give an update to everyone and hopes it helps you to stay positive about it even though it is really hard to.
    • NuMe
      NuMe amy07772

      Posted

      Idk if congrats would be appropriate. I'm hoping I have HSV-1. Hmph. I'm in and out of my anger stage. But I know everything will be okay regardless. Trying to stay positive.
    • amy07772
      amy07772 NuMe

      Posted

      Lol I totally understand about the congrats part. It def was the better case scenerio. I just prepared myself for the worst but hoped for the best. I also have bad anxiety so I was freaking myself out but realized that will only make things worse so I had to let go of the anger. I still get angry at my partner because he wasn't honest but then again I don't know if he would even know he had it since he didn't have any signs of it. I am more angry at myself. I hope everything turns out for you and that it is HSV1 also. I'm here if you need it
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