just want to tell my suffering from anxiety to people who might understand
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At this moment Im a 22 yaerd old guy and for 7 years now, whenever I am among people, I get extremely anxious, my body responds with hotflash, nauseous, hard sweating, I basicly feel as if I am about to do a presentation for 2000 people. Often when I first meet people I am quite fine, but the better I get to know them the worse my anxiety gets extreme, to the point I throw up. For example, I have been flirting with a girl at work at first this was good fun, but after few days I started getting first anxiety symptons as she shows real interest in me and wants to hangout more, I also want this, but I am unable to as I am extremely extremely anxious, to the point I lose all attraction to her and she is just some kind of demon in my head as she inflicts such heavy anxiety to me. Also at home I am now 24/7 anxious about having to meet up with her, what to do, because I dont want to let yet another chance of connecting with someone go down the drain because of anxiety. I know one of the reasons for my fear is that I am afraid that when I connect with someone I will end up social situations, and I am afraid for the anxiety I will get in those situations, so I am not afraid of the situation, I am afraid of my anxiety during that situation. If you recognize this please talk with me I need real help because I am so lonely
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jan34534 dennisanxious
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i’m sorry you are going through all of this. Anxiety is nasty.
I’m thinking that it might be a good idea to get some help with this before getting into a relationship. if you don’t feel good about what’s going on with yourself, it’s going to carry into any relationship. You may not be ready for one at this time. See if you can get some counseling for this so that you can feel better and more at ease. it’s going to take a little time to get to where you want to be but in the end it’ll be worth it and you can enjoy life much better and bring people into your life.
take one day at a time and I hope you feel better soon
sasical72 dennisanxious
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Hi there,
I have found in the past that something that has helped me in these kind of situations is to be open about it, if you mention it to people the anxiety decreases because it's a control issue. When in social situations you are trying so hard to control how you feel/look in front of others that it just makes it 100 times worse.
I would just say, I need to get out 5 mins because when there are a lot of people I get claustrophobic. And just by expressing it I would feel more at ease.
But in the end it is just another way that anxiety manifests itself, so the best best option would be to work on lowering your anxiety and for me the best results have come from exercise and therapy.
Good luck!