Just when I think I'm feeling better ........

hi jane, I sympathise with you, it's awful to lose your mum and especially going through this too.   I have also suffered health anxiety starting perimenopause and had the need to visit doctors in the past as much as I have had to during all this.  It is very hard to accept that all these horrible aches and pains and the rest are not more serious, but you have had all the tests etc and we just have to accept that it is horrible meno symptoms.  I had a few months feeling nearly fully ok and it hit again, now I'm feeling good again and a pattern is forming, good, then really bad, then good, and so on...  When you're feeling good, you forget how bad you've felt for a while and then when it hits again, it's back to health anxiety.  But this time for me, after being in this pattern for a while, just not letting it worry me.  I have found that upping your vitamins during the bad stage works well.  I get more vitamin C, D and Omega 3's into me and it helps, especially the vitamin D3.

hope this helps a bit!

Hi

I had stopped having periods six months now. All sudden I'm bleeding alot.should I be worried? I also go to docs alot since all these menapause symptoms. My family has cancer on both sides of the family. Keep your chin up.

Jane losing your mum is a major trigger towards your health issues im sure, I spent most my frequent visits to the dr, during the peri menopause stage myself. A year ago isnt very long ago and your still trying to get your head around losing your mum. You need to allow yourselfe proper grieving time. The build up to the menapause can be pretty awful. The main thing is youve had so many tests and presume all came back negative so try not to worry. Im post menapausal now and still gets bouts of anxiousness and tummy sickly feeling as well. Have you a partner or a good friend you can turn too?

Sue x

Hi Jane. I've joined this group today because I have so many of the symptoms of menopause and I really just want someone to talk to about it.i was due on 9 days ago and have felt everyday like I'm going g to come on...terrible stomach ache backache and really full sore boobs...which I never have.i thi k were are just going to have to put up with it for the next god knows how many years!!!I'm so sorry about your mom.i have all that to come and I'm worried about everything at the moment and just see the negative in everything 😢😢😢.i came of cilitopram just before Xmas last year with side effects so be careful if you come off it....I'm thi k g of going back on it!!!!.anytime you want to talk just drop me a line..liz x

Ah bless ya,i cant imagine losing my mum,but you should celebrate her life,she will keep on living in you,its not easy when you are grieving and living with the menopause too im sure,we are here to support you,this website is great xx

Dear Jane

The health anxiety in peri has been awful, a roller-coaster of a ride, you think everything is fine and wham some other health worry. Sorry to hear about your mum, bereavement in itself is a hard thing to deal with, let alone throwing menopause on top of it. I loat my mum and sister twenty years ago and bereavement has many stages you have to go through. This stage of our lives is an uncertain and anxious time. I have had a snippet of every symptom I think and I too have had the anxiety and panic feelings. I take a multi vit with magnesium which has helped me with this. I say hang in there and take each day as it comes and come on this forum for advice etc, it really helps to know that you are not alone x