Keep getting infections after sex (BV & UTI) what's going on?

So I am married ,& we've been together for quite some time now (around 9 years) I never before had a UTI (I understand they are common, but I've never experienced one before this situation)  I also want to add that the only time I've ever experienced bacterial infection was in the beginning of my pregnancies; which was a long time ago and only happened twice. My husband is the only person I've been with in years.  I bring this up because I know sometimes a new partner can trigger an imbalance. So a little over a month ago (July 2nd to be exact) my husband and I had sex. We hadn't had sex for about a week and a half before this. So by the next night I noticed a few things- I was having some cramping and bloating (no longer have a cycle - had to have a hysterectomy few years ago) and seemed like I needed to urinate a little more frequently. By the next evening I was certain I was experiencing my first UTI! At this point I put off going to a doctor because we had planned a little mini getaway with the kids for the 4th of July and I didn't want to spoil it- so I continued to drink a lot of water and my husband picked me up some OTC meds. Over next couple days it got so bad I was urinating out blood clots! (Yes I made sure it was coming from my urethra and not my vagina, but even still I would have no reason to have bleeding whatsoever as I don't have a period.) I eventually went to urgent care. So a few days later I went to my gyno (the apt was unrelated.. but maybe I should mention we did discover a rectocele) so with that apt they did a swab and called the next day to tell me I also had BV.  Now I know both BV and UTI are common things, & aren't considered to be STI. But it did seem a little odd to me that I'm not prone to these things and all a sudden I have both.  So those were treated. Had to go about 3 weeks maybe with no sex. 😖 So me and my husband FINALLY had sex ,& the next evening I noticed those same symptoms of a UTI.  I quickly began drinking lots of fluids and taking the meds (like AZO  urinary health, & some other one) things seemed to go back to normal for a bit. About a week or so went by - we weren't  intimate  just because I was dealing with some emotional things after learning about my mild rectocele ( posterior  vaginal wall prolapse) we finally had sex again 2 nights ago and here I am again with these symptoms! I woke up in middle night with urgency to urinate, the pressure feeling after I emptied my bladder - that feeling of you still need to go- was back! I also felt almost like a  pulsating sensation in my urethra. Basically all morning so far I'm just consistently feeling like I need to urinate. I know it's the start of a UTI. And now I'm having a lot of discharge. This is not my regular discharge.  It looks very much like the discharge I had few weeks ago when I had BV!  

I don't understand what is happening. How does someone who's never really been prone to these sorta infections, who's been sleeping with the same person , keep getting this right after sex? I've heard people say before sex can throw off your ph balance and things like that- but I'd think after all these years my vagina would be use to him and his typical bacteria!  I'm starting to question things- & that alone makes me feel so awful!!! I never in a million years would have thought I'd question my husband to myself . I have never had any reason to think he's been unfaithful. There's never been any "signs", and he's a good man and good to me. But I can't help but wonder for a second.... why after all this time of being with him am I suddenly getting these infections after we have sex? 

Has this happened to anyone else? Can anyone give me any insight with this? I went to my doc again 2 days ago for my regular pap and whatnot. I'm assuming I'll be getting a phone call if he again found BV- or anything else. I just don't understand why this is going on. 

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