I've been in a 5 year relationship since I was 18, which started off very passionate and fine in the bedroom. A month or so into the relationship I started taking the pill. Since then it seems like I've lost interest in sex, and I've never had an orgasm. I think I've come close, but almost when I realise what's happening I almost panic. I struggle with anxiety, depression and self esteem issues so this probably doesn't help. If we don't have sex for maybe 1 1/2 weeks then I might get a bit of an urge, but my boyfriend has said he would like it pretty much every time I see him (4 times a week approx.).
I don't masturbate or anything like that. We have discussed buying toys and things like that but every time we so near a shop or look online it makes me really nervous. I've tried wearing sexy undergarments and things, which are fine at the time but then I get nervous about wearing them again. Having spoken to a friend for advice she said "there's not much point trying being adventurous if you don't have the basics down", which seems to make sense too.
Any advice? D: