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Ladies, Just wondering, sex ??? Ever again 😳

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bobbie102
bobbie102

One for the ladies, my poor husband and I have been deprived for along time , it's been almost impossible for 12 months and completely impossible for the last 6 . 😢. Seen as we can't see each other blushing 😉, thought I'd ask , when ? And if it's the same for others ??

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  • auntiebeanie
    auntiebeanie bobbie102

    Posted

    They normally say after 6 weeks, I waited 3 months and was petrified I would do something to dislocate it!  Things do get back to normal but patience is required. It is also if you feel like it, it is a major op so even though hubby may be suffering, you have been too. Never be afraid to say you cannot carry on if you are finding it too uncomfortable. ( luckily I have a supportive husband) A year on, no problems. Good luck with the op.
    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK auntiebeanie

      Posted

      Absolutely - if the person who had the surgery says stop, then you both STOP.

      Best to have a quick chat, and have a little giggle as you change positions with your partner than a dislocation.

      It will all come back in a a little time, patience and understanding is needed.

    • bobbie102
      bobbie102 Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      My dear husband is very understanding bless him , he's had to be , I have been in far too much pain over the past 6 months to even consider intimacy 😪. And even the 6 months before that weren't great . So basically we've done nearly a year without, so another 3-4 months won't make much difference. I'm just glad to hear that after my hip is renewed my sex life will soon come after 😳(Excuse the pun)

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK bobbie102

      Posted

      It's not easy is it when you're in constant pain.  Let's hope you are soon pain-free.eek

  • sarah1996
    sarah1996 bobbie102

    Posted

    I know how you feel. Its hard on everybody when it comes to intimacy in a relationship. Im 20 and recovering from a very complex thr and a collarbone sirgery, even the unfortanelty the collarbone is still broken. Me and my fiance tried it at around 8 weeks. Tbh it was magical haha. We usually obnly do one position due to my various limitations and mobility issues, this is usually just me lying on my stomach but it works well for both of us.

    Dont worry. You and your Mr will be able to embrace each other and be intimate before you know it. Goodluck hun.

    • bobbie102
      bobbie102 sarah1996

      Posted

      Thank you Sarah Im more hopeful now , hearing so many of us are in the same situation and coping the best they can , keeping each other's spirits up . I feel reassured every time I read new post . I hope you heal 100% and have no further problems, one surgery is enough for anyone. Bless you lovie xxxx

  • arlie
    arlie bobbie102

    Posted

    Wow! It is crazy how different our instructions from our surgeons are. My surgeon (posterior approach) gave me very few limitations and restrictions. I asked about sex when I was discharged and was basically told to stop if it does not feel comfortable. I was a bit shocked based on what I had researched. My hubby was pretty excited to hear that lol. I think we waited 2 weeks and have not had a problem since(9 weeks since surgery). I was a bit nervous the first time after surgery but that is gone......😉 I am in Canada btw.

  • Nige47264
    Nige47264 bobbie102

    Posted

    Hi there, can I just say from a guys side. I had a thr 7 weeks ago. Before my op, sex was not very often as it was uncomfortable for me in many positions we tried. Anyway we got to just short of six weeks and I was rather keen to see how things went. I was nervous and frightened of dislocation. We both agreed slow and steady wins the race. Yeeeehaaar, it was amazing, it's like a new lease of life. I feel twenty years younger. I think it's just a case of steady away and lots of practice. Hope things work out ok for you.

    • bobbie102
      bobbie102 Nige47264

      Posted

      Love it 😂😂made me laugh out loud ,"slow and steady wins the race " 😂😂😂👏🏼🍾👍🏽 . I hope things go as well for me . But a lady has to be in rather a different position 🙄. I'm sure slow and steady will do the trick though xx

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK bobbie102

      Posted

      Just a thought, but perhaps you should try a different position to the (how can I put it) 'standard' approach.  Slow and stedy is great advice to avoid a dislocation - nice one Nige.

      We tried quite a few ideas from the picture before finding a happy place to be.

  • patsy63
    patsy63 bobbie102

    Posted

    Hi Bobbie, I've had 3 revisions and 7 operations on the same hip due to my local hospital really messing up! I'm now in shocking pain on morphine and severly disabled. However my husband has been fantastic, a real rock,it's good to know I got something right. It's been so hard on him, this has been going on for 6 years, so we've just had to be a lot more inventive! We're lucky that we can take time....in fact have had a few scrambles in the afternoon to answer the front door! What means so much to me is that my body can experience something other than pain. So keep practicing and having a giggle with it. 

    It does bring to mind a silly story of somthing that happened to us when I was 18 . Staying with an elderly aunt my then boyfriend and me where put in the same bedroom......my mother would have been horrified. On the bedside table, a book 'Sex in your 70s'. Needless to say we thought that this was pretty yuk. The opening paragraph was... Sex in your 70s is a bit like mountain climbing, it might take longer to get there but the view is no less stunning.....perhaps it should have said Sex with a wonky hip!!

      

  • gean02432
    gean02432 bobbie102

    Posted

    1 replace ment, 5 revisions to left hip, bad bone, area where socket sits, pelvic bone broke in half 9 days after my last surgery. too fearful, they don't know if they can fix next time it breaks, this last time the socket shattered into many pieces when it dislocated two weeks before schedule surgery. in 2013 we were divorced.

    I always pray for couples that have life events like mine to love like the first day they met forever. That's how it's suppose to be. 

    There are no words to express how I feel after all this. 

     

  • Janilamour
    Janilamour bobbie102

    Posted

    Dear Bobbie, there should be no reason why you can't get back to your nuptules. Don't be afraid, turn off the light and enjoy. Just take your time  but you may have to change your position to ease pressure on the affected side. You should be more comfortable in the missionary position with him over you. After all he time gone by you should be fine. The replacement hip should be well settled in. Tightness in the muscles of your legs may be felt, but I think that's just because you've been guarding yourself for so long.

    I hope you are well and wish you all the best for your future happiness.

     

  • wendelin
    wendelin bobbie102

    Posted

    Much depends on the position, maybe expectations, needs..  Having some basic (not the porn kind designed for men's entertainment) 'sex' possible even with severe mobility limits. 

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