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Lashing out all the time

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stephxx07
stephxx07

Before christmas i found out that my bf had a drunken fumble wth my best firend while i was in bed, she came on to him and he was just being stupid I want to move past this with him,but i just seem to lash out on him all the time I never went to work today i just stayed home did nothing and cried I hate treating him like this but its driving me insane My anxiety has gone through the roof, im having daily panic attacks im not eating anymore I just want this feeling gone, can anyone help!

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  • ursulauc62
    ursulauc62 stephxx07

    Posted

    Have you talked to him about it. Has he said he's sorry?  If your'e friend came on to him, aren't you annoyed with her?  Maybe you are deflecting your'e anger at her onto him?
    • stephxx07
      stephxx07 ursulauc62

      Posted

      I'm refusing to speak to her! She was texting him the next day I wasn't aware she told me 2 days before Christmas in front of my little boy "to clear her conscience" xx
  • iain68035
    iain68035 stephxx07

    Posted

    You have every right to be angry at and her there is no time line to move on from something like that and you shouldn't feel guilty for being angry you have done nothing wrong if he loves you he will take what's coming to him and work hard to regain your trust
  • Polly42
    Polly42 stephxx07

    Posted

    Before you do or act please try a method I have used regularly and so far has served me well. Go away from everyone for an hour or so with a pen and paper, then try to 'just' look at your boyfriend and your love for him, try and put a price on what you have is

    £100 £1000 £10,000 or even £100,000 or is it in the relms or

    lottery win. I think this is the first question that you have to ask

    yourself. When you have your answer, you can work out how

    hard you are prepared to work and how long you are prepared to work for that value. ( I know we all profess to want to win the lottery but that is only at the cost of £2.. ) Try it it should give you a cool head and put you in charge of your own life, you are obvious in love to react the way you have,. Put yourself first and to have someone to love, and to be loved is special and not to be discarded easily

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