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LEFT ALONE BECAUSE I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH IBS

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CEE_CEE
CEE_CEE

24 years w/husband who left after me being diagnosed with Irritable bowel syndrome...im distraught will i ever find someone who can relate to my symptoms

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  • jacqueline01135
    jacqueline01135 CEE_CEE

    Posted

    Are you seriously blaming IBS for the reason for  your husband leaving you. ? 
    • CEE_CEE
      CEE_CEE jacqueline01135

      Posted

      Yes, I have been with my husband for 24 years we don't believe in women passing gas, belching or having a bowel movement and making it a public matter. I wasn't raised that way and certainly he wasn't either. The gas and excessive diarrhea were quite offensive. From someone who didn't go to the bathroom to cracking paint, I'm STILL not comfortable. Maybe you've been exposed to this type of environment but I wasn't. SORRY!

  • pippa58442
    pippa58442 CEE_CEE

    Posted

    I think women are better at empathy and sympathy than men in some cases.  I have to hide it from my dad if I am unwell because he makes annoyed faces and get verbally aggressive.  He did the same when my mum caught bugs and then developed dementia.  He is sympathetic when it suits him.  It took me a month to tell him I had an IBS flare up recently and when I did tell him, he was aggressive and dismissive of my symptoms and fragile stomach.  I do sympathise.
  • iqbal_45667
    iqbal_45667 CEE_CEE

    Posted

    It is a pity to know about such an attitude from those who are supposed to more concerned about their loved ones rather than adopt an indifferent attitude. Does n't generally happen at least where I live. May God bless them with suitable guidance.

    • CEE_CEE
      CEE_CEE iqbal_45667

      Posted

      Thank you for the reply. It's been really hard. Everything associated with my gastrointestinal dysfunction was quite an issue because certain things are unacceptable PERIOD! we've been separated for 6 months after 24 years. I can't change my situation but I don't know how I can have a serious relationship with someone else without this being a real "adjustment" for them..

  • fgd
    fgd CEE_CEE

    Posted

    hello
    • CEE_CEE
      CEE_CEE fgd

      Posted

      Thanks for the reply. I'm just not sure how to address the issue. I'm 44 and I don't know how to actually break the ice with someone new about my condition. It's embarrassing and I'm very self conscious. It's just not that simple.

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