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LETTING FRIENDS DOWN :(

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tiki92
tiki92

Hi guys! Im feeling horrible today well i feel basically the same everyday. A few days ago I passed out onto the couch and if the couch was not there i would have fainted onto the ground instead. My legs feel like they are no longer mine Ive been bedbound for a few years housebound for a few years but im really getting worse. Friends seem to take my illness lightly some probably think im exaggerating when i describe the different pains and i definitely dont mean to sound like a complainer. But im always hurting and can barely walk to the kitchen or bathroom without my legs feel like they are giving out.

Now the problem is this, I have a close friend who is a licensed MMA fighter. Shes trying to earn money fighting. There is a fight at a local club that she is scheduled to fight in. The enviroment is VERY urban and VERY dangerous. I cant anyone else to go with me and i dont want to go alone with just her because if she wins the other team might become sore losers, especially because the girl she is fighting boyfriend put the whole event together. Its a pretty tacky enviroment and in clubs in Detroit people get shot quite often.

Im concerned because Im very sick and i dont look sick. I dont want anyone trying to hurt me and i cant defend myself at all. I also wear glasses and cannot see with them at all. They are designer Gucci glasses and i didnt want to wear them because im scared someone will try to snatch them off my face. But if i do go and dont wear them i wont even be able to see my surroundings. It just sounds like a terrible situation for a measly $300.

I tried talking to her and telling her basically everything i just posted on this forum, yet she still wants to go fight. She texted me back and i quote "its really not that serious, im used to holding my own, i'll be okay thanks for your concern tho"... so i dont know if she caught an attitude but it seems like it. The point is noone understands my illness so its very dangerous for me to go in that type of enviroment and cant hold MY own. She assured me she wouldnt let anything happen to me.. but she cant fight the whole club and people in the city carry guns into fights its just a very dangerous night in the making in my opinion. Plus I dont want to go seeming like a handicap person.

I told her i would help her find local MMA fighting and that i was sorry but i think she is mad at me. Can you tell me your thoughts on the situation? Since most of you feel bad as me physically it would be nice to get your advice

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  • georgeGG
    georgeGG tiki92

    Posted

    hi Tiki, I understand very well your concern. However excellent your girlfriend is at unarmed combat she still could be killed by any idiot with a handgun. Hard as it may seem I would think the wisest option would be for you to stay at home. I know that is very hard for you as you must want to support your girlfriend in this important fight.
    • tiki92
      tiki92 georgeGG

      Posted

      Yes you are so right George, thanks so much!!
  • alison44235
    alison44235 tiki92

    Posted

    Sounds as if your legs are very week from being in bed for so long.

    I would not go to the fight if I were you even though I understand that you are worried about your friend.

    • tiki92
      tiki92 alison44235

      Posted

      Thanks Alison and im not going to go. I appreciate your feedback!
  • andrew22534
    andrew22534 tiki92

    Posted

    Hi Tiki, speaking as a coach i always try to get to athlete events to watch them compete in a planned way ie i try to go to some and also dont go to others, the athlete has to stand on their own two feet. asa coach i also say no to events sometimes and dont "let" the athlete go or discourage them from going. As a friend i always try to support my friends. and yes in some pretty stupid situations. However...I would try to go in this situation but would try to plan it as best as i could to empower my own security and that of my friend. If i couldnt do that i would be very reluctant. Things like close by transport, another couple of friends... I would also be wondering why go to this if it is so risky anyway? personally i am silly enough to go and probably would very much regret it if the events go the way you expect. The sensible head says dont go the heart says go... also in terms of people understanding let your friends read the research and information on the illness and ask them how they feel with real flu (not a cold but flu) then tell you fel worse than that on a good day.
    • tiki92
      tiki92 andrew22534

      Posted

      Thank you so much Andrew! And I tried asking my cousin and other friends. Everybody had excuses as to why they couldnt go and said they dont do clubs. And another thing which I find weird you can tell a friend your sick or you have this disease, but nobody will even try to understan it. All they say is eat healthier and exercise get out the house more. Those things dont work with this illness and if people did the research or cared enough they would realise that. See people get my age of 22 and appearance with make up confused with how really sick I am. And I totally understand you as an Athletic coach pushing yourself to go. But things like this we just have to weigh out the pros and cons. Thanks again so much
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