Libido does it ever come back?

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My periods stopped in June 2017. Ever since my libido abruptly stopped. I have had a very active sex life, me and my partner used to have sex twice or thrice a week but now I just don't know what to do. My partner is very understanding but I know he is suffering. I feel nothing, no part of my body has any sexual sensation any more. It feels mechanical. I don't get orgasms, if I ever do (so rarely I have forgotten the last time) it lasts less than a second. I don't feel satisfied. I feel so depressed about it. I work out, I'm slim, I eat healthy, I take supplements and vitamins. Also I've tried HRT, estrogen, progesterone, testosterone combo. But NOTHING is working. It freaks me out that one must live the next two or three decades without feeling anything! Desperate for help. Does anyone have similar problems? How do you cope?

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    Woman! You are not alone. We have to keep fighting. I go through periods where I literally don’t care aboutsex and then I’m all in. I’ve found exercise helps me

    Get back to myself.  Sucks I’m

    Single too and men are so selfish and don’t want to wear condoms so there is another carrot to worry about.  Be well. Enjoy each day and what it has to offer.  I hope this is private 🙄

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      Thanks for the reply. I just fell two years ago. He is 37 years old. For six months my libido was on overdrive before it shut off abruptly. I've told him, he should probably move on, it was stupid anyway to begin this because I was married before and have two kids, he has never been married and wants to someday marry, have kids etc.

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    Hi mee,

    I see you are on testosterone already. What mg are you taking? My suggestion would be its not enough and you could simply have your testosterone increassed.  I have been on testosterone treatment for almost three years. I started off at 2mg and now at 8mg. Probably going to have it increased next month when I have blood work done again. Another suggestion is have your testosterone put in a separate cream on its own. I think the hormones work better when they are in separate creams. I was feeling the same as you once my periods ended. I had a very difficult time getting my orgasms. My natural lubrication disappeared and I knew something had to be done to fix it because I wasn't happy with that part of my life disappearing. I have noticed every time I have increased my mg on the testosterone it takes about a month to feel some change. If your testosterone numbers are low you may need several increases before you start noticing a nice difference. My intimate life has greatly changed and in many ways better than it ever was even when I was younger. Good Luck!

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      Hi Jude,

      I am new to the forum and just want to send a note to thank you for all of the information you've shared about your experience with the compounding creams! I have not yet found a compounding pharmacy but am planning to get info on it and see the locations nearest me. I do have an MD near my home who does all of the transdermal - they are the BHRT - just not the compounded ones.

      I did get my saliva results and all of my numbers were in range with the exception of Progesterone being at 8 (range said should be 100-500) and my ratio of Progesterone to Estrogen was 17 (range should be 75-270). I started Peri at 45 and am turning 50 in November. Horrible symptoms appeared right around the time I didn't get a period for the first time and that is one I decided to get my hormone levels checked. I was also planning on doing the blood test as well.

      I did start with an over the counter natural progesterone cream last week and am noticing positive changes. I appreciate you sharing your experience - it gives me hope!

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      Thanks Finny,

      I have been on BHRT including estrodial, estriol, progesterone and testosterone for almost three years. It has been a very positive experience for me. I am with a holistic doctor, prior MD, who has been the key to my success going into menopause. I"ve said many times, the best chance for hormone replacement success starts with a well trained doctor that has studied this part of a woman's life and what is happening with our bodies. Good Luck and thanks for your comment.

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      Thanks for the reply. It's such a relief to hear this! I am going to check with my gynac. She was a little hesitant about increasing testosterone as I started having hairfall and she felt it could be due to that. So perhaps my testosterone dosage is low. Yes she has given me testosterone seperatly as a gel. Androgel

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      mee,

      I would highly recommend you get your testosterone through a compounding pharmacy made for women in a cream. It is applied to the labia. I don't think androgel is suppose to be used for women what I've read on it. Your doc should be able to prescribe you bio identical testosterone made for a woman. Could be the androgel causing your hair fall out. I haven't had any issues with my testosterone cream. I started low at 2mg and 1ml is the dosage. It just a pea size amount applied daily.  After a few months if your not feeling where you want to be then suggest to your doctor another increase. Some women need more testosterone than others to feel good. I think you will have less side effects going with the compounded cream. You should be able to find a compounding pharmacy where you live. I'm in a pretty remote area and I have access to one. 

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      Hi, You should be able to locate holistic doctors in your area very easily. I searched and found mine here which I felt I hit the jackpot being he had practiced as a MD first. There is more and more doctors that have gone the holistic approach and you should be able to locate one too in your area. I think they are finding more and more that people want to be more healthy and treat naturally when necessary instead of the prescription drug approach. They are also realizing another thing, why wait and treat the problem after it comes , instead why not prevent them from coming in the first place? Keeping people healthy to begin with. Search for these doctors in your area and you will find one most likely. Good Luck.
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      Thanks so much, Jude. I have a holistic doctor, prior MD, very near to my home . She is the one that does the creams, pellets or pills. I am strongly considering a consultation with her. I believe I am seeing some positive results with the OTC progesterone cream - but I do have issues with vaginal dryness so am thinking I will need to consider the estriol and maybe the estrodial, too. Again - appreciate all that you have shared with your experience!!! 
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      Thanks Finny,

      I think you will be happy with a consultation  with this holistic doctor near you. Some women have had very good results with pellets for their hormone replacement. My doctor does not do the pellets yet so I will stay on the creams for now being I've been having such good success with them. My husband is on testosterone pellets which has worked very nicely for him too. He has to travel 3 hours to get those pellets but it has been very worth it. I wish you the best of luck in your decisions.

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    Interesting post and discussion...but I think all you ladies, so far, seem to be in USA and medical care is very different in UK.

    Most of you seem to have a Gynae, whereas here, in UK, we only go to see a gynaecologist if there are problems.

    I'm unsure what you mean by a Compounding Pharmacy or compounding creams made for women?

    If anyone could explain, I'd be grateful please!  Think I need something!

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