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UPDATE: I wrote a post a few years ago about how I cured my LS, and came here to update you on my progress. I have lost track of time but I believe it was about 4 years ago that I made this post and am still symptom free. I want to add something that i did not emphasize enough in my previous discussion, and which I believe is a key part of this and many other health problems: my mental/emotional/sexual health.
Up until the past couple years, I always struggled with low-grade depression and anxiety which sometimes became more severe for stretches of time, I had disordered-eating behaviours for years (lots of diets, overexercise, body image issues) despite having always been in the healthy weight range. I also had lots of unresolved family issues which contributed to unhealthy relationships with the wrong kind of man and lots of anxiety and confusion about sex. Most of these problems went unaddressed for years because I functioned highly despite them (excellent grades in university, lots of friends, positive demeanor, etc).
I'm not saying everyone who has LS has these problems, but I will say that before I sought therapy I thought I was 'pretty normal'. Within one session I realized this was not the case at all, and there have been many situations in my life where my sexual boundaries have been overstepped. It was painful to acknowledge because I had so much buried, but I'm so glad I did it.
When I read that there is a loose correlation between childhood sexual abuse and LS, this triggered my thought process... was it really a coincidence that when I developed a health problem, it was in that particular spot on my body? I feel pretty strongly that there is a psychosomatic component.
Then I started thinking about the statistics with respect to women and rape/sexual assaults: 50 percent of women in their lifetime, and that is thought to be low because many people are confused about the concept of consent and don't realize they have been abused. I was raped prior to developing LS.
Then I started thinking about the large number of friends I have who have experienced pressure from a boyfriend/husband to perform sexually on his terms on a regular basis. Not exactly rape, but not okay either. In retrospect I believe my ex-boyfriend probably played a bigger role in triggering my full blown LS than anything else. He was very pushy sexually.
I wonder if this is the pink elephant in the room. It never seems to come up on these forums, and I wonder if it is because no one really wants to admit to themselves or others that their husband/bf plays a role in this because that would mean admitting that the relationship is not okay. Or perhaps 'he' isn't doing anything pushy, but we choose to have sex we do not want anyways because we fear that if we don't, he might leave. I have certainly been guilty of this.
I hope my full disclosure does not come off as accusatory - this very well might not play a major role in most LS cases, and perhaps most people have healthier sexual histories than me. I'm just curious if anyone can identify.
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